The friend zone concept

The notorious “friend zone” is often considered a minefield for pickup artists. They may be afraid of getting into it, perhaps because they don’t know how to get out, or because they lack imagination.

Male seduction coaches tend to say that the friend zone is a real nightmare. Once a woman considers you a friend, they claim, you’ll never be considered a potentially attractive partner again. This statement is totally false.

In reality, the friend zone is not the emotional graveyard that seduction coaches would have us believe. Rather, it’s a reflective space where two people can connect on a deeper level than mere physical attraction. It’s a neutral ground where emotions can be explored and a solid relationship built.

And that’s surely why sex-obsessed hunters regard this area as the absolute precipice, the nothingness from which there is no escape, a kind of modern-day Hotel California.

Who else but the Lover could explain the benefits of the friend zone? Bringing a woman into the friend zone is, on the contrary, drawing her into a safe enclosure where you are the protector. As a result, she sees you as the only person she can confide in. She’ll tell you about all the boys she’s been tempted by, all the men she has a crush on but who aren’t interested in her.

And all the while, you’re learning all kinds of details about her. How she thinks, what disappoints her, what makes her happy, what her expectations of a man are, what male physical attributes she prefers, how she reacts to this or that proposition. The Lover, far from being put off by her attraction to others, takes the opportunity to study his subject carefully.

So, when she’s done with her uninteresting lover(s), the Lover will be there, palm open, ready to collect that fruit falling off the branch. And what does our determined, optimistic Lover do? He comforts, reassures, envelops and oops, his lips have just slipped over those of the poor spurned one. And it’s at this precise moment that the Lover discovers whether or not he can get out of the friend zone.

One out of two times, she’ll fall for it, because this friend is the ultimate confidence man. He won’t deceive her about his intentions; he’s honesty itself. Of course, there’s a risk that her pain will be too great at the time and she’ll reject the Lover. But it will then be up to him to decide whether to push the waiting further or to let go of a conquest too difficult to make.

But as you’ve already guessed, a Lover is a warrior who never gives up!