How to prepare for a first date

How to prepare for a first date The question may seem scary, but there are a few simple tips to help you feel confident and comfortable in your own skin. First of all, it is important to take care of your appearance, but without overdoing it. Choose an elegant and comfortable outfit that will enhance your appearance without preventing you from moving freely. Then, think about preparing a few conversation topics in advance, to avoid any blank moments. But don’t plan a rigid script, also leave room for improvisation and spontaneity.

Finally, take the time to relax before your appointment. Do something relaxing, like yoga, meditation or a walk in the fresh air. This will reduce your stress and enable you to be more present and attentive during the appointment. And don’t forget that the main objective is to have a good time and get to know an interesting person, so make the most of it and let yourself be carried away by the moment.

Here, for example, are 12 things to look after on your first date:

1. Your look: Clean, scented and dressed for casual wear. Clean hair or closely shaven head. Beard neatly trimmed if you have one. A little accessory that makes you stand out from the crowd: an original bracelet, hat, scarf, pin, etc. In short, something that will raise questions and let you show off your unique character.

2. Your punctuality: The immature game of arriving late is a thing of the past. You’re on time because the person who wants to meet you deserves respect.

3. Your confidence level: Be calm and relaxed. You’re not interviewing for a job. You’re meeting a nice person to discuss things. It’s not a marriage contract. If it clicks, great, if it doesn’t, too bad. But be yourself.

4. Your interest in her: From the outset, demonstrate your interest in her. For you, she’s a subject (not an object) of curiosity, and you want to get to know her. So what she says raises questions in you because you want to know more.

5. Your silence on your exes: To be observed religiously. Put all your exes in the closet and if she brings up the subject, you politely decline, saying you don’t like to discuss the past.

6. Your ability to lead the discussion: Unless she’s bursting with energy and you can’t get a word in edgewise, make sure you’ve got plenty to talk about so you don’t fall by the wayside. Practice bouncing off anything so you don’t let your exchanges die.

7. Your humor: Express your humor with finesse and subtlety. Smile and use
to defuse issues that could quickly spoil the mood.

8. Your optimism: You love life and have a phenomenal ability to handle crises of all kinds. You’re imaginative and always have a solution up your sleeve to help others.

9. Your presence: People we meet for the first time often seem distracted, even elsewhere at times. You’re not like that. You’ll stay present in front of the person you’re meeting and occupy the space so that they feel your presence.

10. Your open-mindedness: You’re open-minded and non-judgmental. You’re not racist, sexist, homophobic, anti-Semitic, Islamophobic or anything else. Guard against judging others and claim that you never form an opinion until you have all the elements that make up a subject to analyze.

11. Your respect for women: You love women and it should show. You’re a feminist, at least just enough to convince your conquest that you understand her, and not too much so that she doesn’t think you’re a softie.

12. Your ability to focus on something other than sex: No, you won’t have sex with her that day. At least, that’s not your objective. However, if your charm is working at top speed and she offers you a nightcap at her place, you’d be a fool to refuse. It’s important to remain courteous.