Gentlemen, we are all aware that the temptation can be great to flirt with a woman who is already in a relationship. We all love compliments and signs of attention, especially from a charming gentleman who makes us feel desirable, even if we already have a partner.
However, if you are planning to continue this game of seduction beyond looks and smiles, you need to think carefully before disrupting the relationship of a couple that does not belong to you.
Why so many precautions? For all sorts of reasons that make sense. First, because everything we do to others comes back to us like a boomerang, sooner or later. You will think about it when you are happy with a woman and another Lover tries to seduce her. Then, because a woman who breaks up because of you will expect from you a compensatory love that risks costing you dearly. Finally, because if you have no intention of staying with this conquest, she risks clinging to you with all her claws since you are responsible for the ruin of her peaceful happiness. Still interested?
Ok, in these conditions, let’s go for the flirting of the married woman (or in a common-law relationship). It may be that she really makes you fall for her and that you live only in the hope of conquering her. With all the responsibilities that this implies in the case of success…
To approach a married woman, you will always have to assume that she does not need to change horses. You see, she already has a mount and you are offering her a new stallion without her even asking you for anything. So you will have to deal with this reality: she may be, probably even, very happy in her life and she does not want to shake up her bearings at all. Despite this observation, you persist. Very well. To get her to question her current choice, you must play the occasional psychoanalyst. She must start to doubt her present life. Not only must you undermine the foundation on which her relationship is based, but you have a duty to compensate. You must dangle something better in front of her.
It’s a bit like an election campaign. She’s always voted for one party and she feels comfortable there. Your mission is to show her the bad sides of that party and to show her the good sides of a new party. And to achieve your goals, you’ll need a twisted mind and a bit of dishonesty, like any good politician.
So, still up for it? Assuming you’re willing to stoop that low to win someone else’s lover, you’ll have to be dirty. Maybe you’ll even have to slander his current Lover. Of course, you’ll use subtlety to attack your rival, you’ll gently undermine his solidity, termite-style, little nibble by little nibble, until he falters… then falls.
It’s the little virulent allusions that work best. Like: “Do you feel respected when your husband acts like that towards you?”, “Does your boyfriend always talk to you in that tone?”, “Recognition from the other in a relationship is so important…”. In short, all these remarks that make him understand that there’s a problem in his relationship.
Good luck for the future!