When you find out that the woman you like has children, you may be relieved, as it may mean that she is more mature, responsible, and stable than women without children. However, it is important to keep in mind that parenthood is a major responsibility and it can complicate your love life. Therefore, it is important to think carefully before getting into a relationship with a single mother and make sure that you are prepared to face the challenges that it entails.
When you spot a woman who seems like an easy target to conquer, the appearance of her children can be a major obstacle for the Lover. Why? Well, if a Lover likes children, for the one who collects love affairs, this can turn out to be a real hindrance. Indeed, the Lover likes to carry out his love conquests quickly and easily, and a woman with children who will not be entirely available to him will not be very attractive. He does not want to share his prey, even if the latter is a beautiful gazelle.
Mentioning an allergy to children will not help him, especially if we consider that mothers generally gauge the kindness of a man by his ability to negotiate with children. Our Lover must, therefore, show good will and, even if it means acting, agree to be the hobby horse with the little ones or the holiday instructor with the older ones. Otherwise, he must simply change his target.
Falling head over heels for a mother is certainly resigning yourself to only enjoying 35% of the time of this goddess who makes your heart beat. Clearly, the single mother has only one certainty in her life and that is her offspring. She knows that, no matter how many men will cross her life or squat in her bed, they will only be passing through. Her children, on the other hand, are there to stay. You will never be anything more than a distraction for her, at best, or the fifth wheel of the cart, at worst.
If this woman is so exceptional that you feel the urge to overcome this ordeal without batting an eyelid, well, we congratulate you. You score points. Because to a mother, the guy who doesn’t run away at the sight of his kids is a man who MAYBE is worth it.
So she has children. You are crazy about her and want to seduce her. First thing to do: charm the children first. The Lover who is not frightened by his beloved’s offspring knows exactly how to handle young people. Fatherly with the little ones, buddy buddy with the teenagers, he knows the tech gadgets that appeal and the games that captivate. He can even be a considerable asset in the case of a mother who is a little overwhelmed by her parental obligations. The Lover senses these things well and knows how to intervene without imposing himself, defuse crises, serve as arbiter without ever taking the side of one or the other. And some mothers appreciate that.
However, it should not be believed that all mothers need support with their children, so much so that a well-intentioned Lover could also be put back in his place by a hyper-controlling mother. In this specific case, the Lover had better think carefully about continuing his relationship with this type of mother. He will never manage to make an acceptable place for himself. He might as well look elsewhere.
Our advice: a mother will always put her role as a mother before her role as a lover. Therefore, if you have chosen this woman for anything other than a carnal adventure, you risk starvation in a short time. So opt for a little trip in the sheets of a hotel, without tomorrow, without commitment, without disappointment!