To help your partner reach orgasm and eventually ejaculate, it is important to engage in proper foreplay.
You may have seen scenes of squirting women in porn movies and wondered if it was real or fake. We’ll let you judge for yourself, but female ejaculation is a reality, also known as “squirting” by amateurs.
For many people, female ejaculation is a mysterious phenomenon. Where does the fluid come from? What does it cause? And most importantly, is it urine? With a little know-how and patience, you can help your partner achieve this state of intense pleasure and discover this phenomenon together.
It’s not urine, recent studies suggest – researchers believe the fluid comes from the Skene’s glands , often called the female prostate. The fluid ejaculated by women is nothing like male semen, which is thick, milky and low in quantity.
On the other hand, the fluid produced during ejaculation tends to wet the entire bed, although this is not a generality. It is composed of a substance called urea, as well as uric acid, ejaculatory fluid and creatinine.
Fluid builds up in the bladder during good sex and is released at the moment of orgasm. It’s real and it can be abundant. This is a woman ejaculating. They can really enjoy this moment.
How to Make a Woman Ejaculate: Step by Step
While there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to making her squirt, there are techniques you can both try to tempt her. Typically, squirting requires G-spot stimulation or a combination of G-spot and clitoral stimulation . You’ll need two fingers, a water-based lubricant, and a lot of patience.
It is important that you do not put pressure on yourself. Making a woman ejaculate can be part of a pleasurable sex life, but it is not the ultimate goal. Some women will never ejaculate and yet have a more than fulfilling sex life.
In any case, too high expectations can have the opposite effect by not allowing you to be totally relaxed and may prevent you from enjoying sex and all those sensations that are the best part of it. The goal of sexual experiences should always be pleasure and more pleasure.
Step 1: Prepare your bed or sofa
It’s not the sexiest thing, but a little pre-emptive preparation can save your couch. The amount of fluid varies from woman to woman – some may release a teaspoon – but it’s better to throw down a towel so you can both enjoy the moment, rather than worrying about the sheets.
Step 2: Set the mood
Make sure she feels completely comfortable: music, candles. If she has ejaculated in the past with another man, she may be embarrassed to do it with someone new and will tense her muscles to prevent it from happening.
Step 3: Foreplay
Foreplay is crucial. We really can’t stress this enough. In the early stages of foreplay, the top, bottom, and sides of each breast are super sensitive, so gently caress those areas first. Slowly build things up from there, until you’re eventually stimulating her clit with your mouth, fingers, or a toy.
Step 4: Find the G-spot
Then, with your palm facing up, insert two lubricated fingers and make a beckoning motion inside her. Use tapping, stroking motions and find her G-spot, located on the vaginal wall toward the stomach. You will know when you have found the right area because it is rough, almost like the peel of an orange.
Step 5: Keep Moving Forward
For most people, ejaculations only happen when this area is filled with blood, so when you feel her G-spot start to swell, don’t worry and don’t slow down or stop. Keep the same finger motion and pressure. If she feels like she’s about to pee, that’s a sign she’s about to ejaculate.
Step 6: Don’t stress
While G-spot stimulation will help her ejaculate, it’s not a guarantee. It’s important to remember that women’s ejaculation experiences vary greatly, so what’s normal for one may be very different for another.
There is no one sure way to control ejaculation, it is a matter of figuring out what works with a partner and this often involves a lot of trial and error. It is important to know your body and communicate with your partner.
Sex positions
While the manual method described above is often the most effective, it’s not your only option. If you’re wondering how to make a woman squirt during sex, any position that stimulates her G-spot and clitoris at the same time should have the same effect – we’ve picked three.
The greyhound
This move provides an ideal angle to allow you to reach the vaginal wall before. Don’t go too deep to target the G-spot and hold a vibrator against her clitoris to increase her chances of ejaculating.
The spoon
In this move, your penis points directly at the G-spot while again leaving the clitoris open for stimulation. Additionally, she can lean forward or push back to really find the right positioning.
The inverted Amazon
This is the ultimate position for dual G-spot and clitoral stimulation – plus she’s in control the whole time, which will get her more excited.
Other tips
Try a toy
Go shopping. There are so many vibrators to stimulate the G-spot.
Encourage her
A little verbal communication helps. Tell her how sexy and sensual she is. She will feel more relaxed.
Enjoy this experience
Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t happen, and you, don’t hesitate to ejaculate. Either way, if you’ve found her G-spot and perfected the art of arousing her that way, you’ve taken steps toward giving her the best orgasms of her life. And that’s already a lot.