How do you keep calm when faced with an impressive woman?

You may come across a woman who impresses you, whether in the office, on the street, in the supermarket or on the RER. This woman is the crème de la crème, the alpha female who makes you feel like you’ve been hit by an atomic bomb. How can you adapt to this type of ultra-beautiful, ultra-seductive, ultra-cultured, ultra-intelligent, ultra-independent, ultra-everything woman? It’s a real challenge!

What situation are you in with this woman? Is she your boss, your neighbor, your colleague, someone you meet regularly at the gym, a stranger you see every day, or perhaps the owner of the bar you go to for a drink? It’s essential to understand the context of your encounter so you can keep your cool in her presence. To avoid feeling intimidated, you need to defuse this impression in your mind.

As in the case of chronic shyness, you have to take this woman you adore off her pedestal. Sure, she’s fantastic, wonderful, grandiose. But you’re going to have to wear the crown too if you want to feel like her equal, otherwise it won’t click. Seriously, why would such an exceptional conquest linger with you if you’re not fabulous yourself?

All you need to do now is convince yourself that great minds think alike. That you are cut from the same diamond and that you both shine with the same brilliance. So, even if his every word, his every intervention, his every gesture and look plunges you into absolute bliss, you’ll remain firm in your conviction that you’re his equal.

To avoid those moments when your jaw drops from the impact of your admiration, your best bet is the little smile, the smile of the man delighted by this discussion with such an interesting woman. Not the smile of the man stunned by the exceptional presence of his opposite number, who simply can’t believe how lucky he is to be in the presence of such a hottie. NO! You keep a firm grip on your emotions and continue to manage your behavior with moderation.

Don’t try to show off like a horny kid in the presence of a mature woman. On the contrary, you’ll put forward your calm, admiring attitude, without being silly. You admire this person, she must feel it, but you do it with grace and maturity. Consequently, you don’t shower her with useless compliments (she must already have more than she’s used to), you don’t stare at her like a starving virgin, you don’t try to touch her like a groupie clinging to a rock star’s ankle. You’re simply letting her know that you’ve finally had the immense pleasure of sharing a moment with a truly unique woman.

If you let her take the reins of the conversation, she may lead you into subjects you’re not necessarily comfortable with. Try to hang up on her with topics you’re more comfortable with. Above all, don’t play macho with this kind of goddess. Be open-minded, amusing without being ham-handed, naughty without being libidinous, enveloping without being paternalistic. Be aware that she’s only interested in high-quality men who can also impress her. Keep in mind that you’re the one who matches her desires, not some average guy who can’t believe his luck!