Not so easy to flirt with the written word?

Finding love online has become increasingly common. Dating apps and websites have become popular ways of finding a partner. However, online seduction can be a real challenge, as you have to make a good impression through text messages before you can physically meet the person.

The secret to flirting in writing is to create an emotional connection with the person in front of you. You can achieve this by using humor, giving sincere compliments or asking questions about the person’s interests. The key is to show that you’re interested in her as an individual, and to be patient and persistent.

It’s also important to maintain a balance between conversation and face-to-face interaction. You don’t want to be stuck in a purely online relationship without ever meeting the person in person. Try to set up a real-life date as soon as possible to see if the connection you’ve made online can be continued in the real world.

We all have memories of sweet little words exchanged in school lessons or left in a letterbox, which spiced up our daily school lives. But with the advent of technology, our modes of communication have changed dramatically, making it sometimes difficult to know how to identify and distinguish ourselves in a world where texting, chatting and dating apps have become the norm.

The written word has become increasingly important in our love exchanges, despite the fact that we pay less and less attention to the quality of our written communication. This is a mistake, however, as the written word is now a fully-fledged form of communication that can be used to seduce and charm.

But how do you go about seducing in writing?

There are no rules per se. It depends on how well you know the person, who you have on the other end of the line, when you send them a message, and so on. There are no rules, but there are a few things you should know.

With someone you’re just getting to know

First of all, talk to her about what interests her. There’s nothing worse than receiving messages about nothing but you. The idea isn’t to get to know each other in depth through messages – leave that for dating. The idea here is to maintain or create an attraction, a curiosity. Talk to her about what she does, use what you know about her to question her and get interested in finding out about her briefly.

During the day, don’t dwell on long, deep messages. We all have busy schedules. A little thought at an opportune moment: you know she’s having a little break, send her a naughty little open message. Nothing too elaborate – she probably won’t have time to read a novel and reply. Personalize your message: “This weather makes me rather want to be on your sofa drinking coffee…”, “The smell of your perfume is starting to be evanescent, you’ll have to remedy that…”. The idea is to keep your message brief, but to get her sufficiently excited.

If she’s with friends or family, leave her alone. She probably won’t appreciate having to deal with messages while she’s enjoying herself. The idea is to choose the right moment, when she’ll be available to enter into your seduction process.

The ideal time is often in the evening. As she goes to bed, it’s the perfect time to flirt by message. Her day is over, she wants to rest and enjoy herself, and a little message from you will surely be received with great pleasure.

With an almost unknown person

With someone you don’t know yet because you’ve taken their number in a café or bar, but haven’t yet had a date, the idea is to play it light and casual while still appearing interested (and you should be!). Start with a few short messages, just to test the waters a little and not give too much away either.

If you feel uncomfortable about a subject, don’t hesitate to tell her you’re moving on. Ask her what you want, but don’t be heavy-handed. The idea is to titillate her, not inflate her. If the mayonnaise doesn’t take, forget it. And above all, don’t take things too personally. You don’t know anything about her, her life, her history, her present. There could be a billion reasons outside yourself why a girl won’t go for your seduction attempt. Already taken, personal problems, thinking about something else at the moment, life upheaval.

In short, be fine, be light, be sincere and above all, be yourself! Let’s get started!