How to prepare to meet a gifted person?

Today, the Lover-Coach team offers you advice on how to best prepare for your first meeting with a person with high intellectual potential, also known as gifted.

Contrary to stereotypes, not all gifted people are introverted and studious. There are actually different personality types among people with high intellectual potential (HIP).

If you are considering starting a romantic relationship with a gifted person, it is important to take the time to get to know her better before you take the plunge.

A person with high intellectual potential, often called gifted or sometimes zebra, is a person whose brain works differently from others. Their intelligence can manifest itself in a very particular area and their way of acting or thinking sometimes seems surprising, even disconcerting!

In fact, their psycho-affective system is very different from that of most people. They are often people who have such a lack of self-confidence that they do not realize their differences.

The scientific explanation is quite simple: these people are born with a greater number of neurons, which allows them to process much more information than people with conventional intellectual potential, and to do so more quickly.

This is not without consequences on an emotional level: it is often very complicated for them to express their feelings, because sometimes too much information arrives at the same time, which is, moreover, very tiring for them.

Since there is no single profile among gifted people, some will have increased skills in certain areas, where others will fail. Some will be excellent practically everywhere.

In any case, when it comes to dating, there is no single rule. Despite this, there are a few “constants” that are good to know before a first date.

The hypersensitive nature of people with high intellectual potential must be understood in a certain way if you are considering a relationship. Gifted people can have a very particular behavior in appearance since they have difficulty managing their emotions.

They are often misunderstood because they are very extreme in the way they express what they feel. A gifted person is often aware of this and will have a lot of trouble considering a relationship, often being afraid that others will reject them. As a result, they can develop excessive anxiety and shyness.

A lack of confidence and self-esteem can also damage a relationship that has started well. However, HPI people, once they are confident, like to give and be loved, and they will often be great listeners. They like to help others and they are often empathetic, peaceful people who like to share and communicate.

Even if gifted people like to please once shyness is overcome, it is really the feeling with the person they meet that will be decisive. Physical appearance will not be their priority, but on the contrary, your mind and your intelligence, whether intellectual or human. HPI people are often very whole and the complicity between you will be decisive.

You will need to be assertive, honest and not afraid of certain extremes to share a beautiful relationship with a HPI person.

The Lover-Coach team also advises you to be ready to make the necessary efforts to retain the gifted person who has made your heart vibrate, to prevent them from running away at the first problem in the relationship. Indeed, the HPI person will tend to break up as soon as they feel the slightest difficulty, even if it means regretting it later. They will also seek to have fun, make discoveries or learn new things.

Boredom is her worst enemy, so be prepared to innovate to share unforgettable moments, at the risk of seeing her become anxious, distressed… It’s up to you to understand these very particular needs if you want to have a lasting relationship.

Despite the fact that you will have in front of you an intelligent and creative person, the HPI person will tend to perceive a rather negative self-image. He will surely have a very low self-esteem and will experience moments of anger or fear that you may find difficult to understand.

Sometimes you will have to be patient and learn to support her, while trying to remain complementary and close.

It’s not always an easy task, even if it’s worth it, so you’ll have to learn to stay optimistic!

In all couples, communication is the key to success; with a gifted couple, it’s even more true.

You are probably wondering how to recognize a person with high intellectual potential. There are so many different profiles that you may have difficulty recognizing it at first.

There are some common characteristics, though. Gifted people are very whole and go all the way, and they will have a heightened sensitivity. A simple remark can go down very badly. They cry quite easily and are very sensitive to noise.

Details will be of great importance to them and you will tend to think that they may be taking things a little too seriously.

Finally, making a decision will be complicated, so if you really like this person, it’s up to you to initiate a second date without rushing them too much.

The Lover-Coach team hopes you enjoy this article and wishes you great encounters.