Yes, you may sometimes get a friendly pat on the back. You may even end up in bed with the person you are attracted to, but unfortunately, it is only to offer them comfort by stroking their back while they cry because of their ex (who is also your best friend and has behaved badly again)!

What if you stopped acting like a devoted friend? Who knows, if she started respecting you, your lovely friend might realize what a caring and considerate man you really are!

The power of “NO”

The more time passes, the more you tell yourself that you have transformed into a fruit. Yes, you have become the good pear and you will never have your place in the pretty fruit salad. Of course, you will have a hard time becoming a bad boy in three days, and it is not certain that this solution is the best one either.

On the other hand, you can completely free yourself from these tasks which fully anchor you in the magnificent “friend zone” . By learning to say “NO,” you set your limits. You won’t become the bad guy in the story by using these three little letters. Quite the contrary, saying no is:

• set your limits;
• assert one’s position;
• to respect oneself.

Take a break from your sweetheart’s gaze

You won’t get anywhere with your wife as long as you’re afraid of displeasing her. By following her desires, expectations, needs and wishes too closely, you’re erasing yourself. Try to see life according to your values for once. Come out of your shell and assert yourself!

Are you going to surprise her by acting like a free man? That’s perfect! If she cries in your arms because her ex behaved badly but she keeps going back to him, your pretty friend should survive your transformation.

Yes but… what if it isn’t? Then you will be the lucky winner of a free life regained and you will be able to go to the park to see if the grass is not greener and more respectful of you.

Be a man and embrace conflict!

Yes, we know that conflicts are hard to bear. Spoiler alert: for us too! Now that everyone agrees on this point, we will be able to move forward and above all understand that a good conflict is better than a cold war.

Realize this: Arguing doesn’t automatically mean breaking up.

On the contrary, it is by avoiding serious and important discussions that you will end up losing your loved one (and very often over a trifle, the last straw!). A good friend never argues, he always agrees with everything.

I have a question for you? Is your strategy working? I don’t think so, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this. So here’s a friendly piece of advice (for what it’s worth), try something else. Assert yourself, say no, set your limits, become the free and confident man she regrets losing!

To choose is to renounce… no, to choose is to decide!

By remaining in the supporting role of the good buddy, the adorable friend who you almost wonder if he’s not gay because he is so capable of being close to his sweetheart, without having tried any approaches, you forget to choose how to live your life!

You are putting the decision-making power in the hands of this woman who clearly doesn’t see your potential. What if you changed things up a bit? What if you started making choices?

Whether in your personal or professional life, with your friends, your parents, your neighbors or the baker, choose what you really want, not what suits others!

The key to achieving all this: accepting that not everyone likes you!

As long as you are constantly seeking approval, validation or love from those around you, you will not be able to implement the changes mentioned above. You will remain stuck in a world where others decide and you suffer. What more can I tell you, apart from being brave, everything will be fine!

Just understand that if you break free from this mental prison, you will be able to attract women who truly see you for who you are.

It’s up to you to choose, what do you prefer: to be loved for your personality or to spend your life imagining what your love story could be like with this woman who only sees you as her “brother”?