You’re feeling a bit reluctant to go back to dating sites and apps, not because you think they’re ineffective, but because you’re feeling out of ideas on how to present yourself in the best light while still being true to yourself on dates. This can be extremely stressful, to the point that you’d rather avoid dating sites and platforms even though we’re talking right here. But maybe it’s possible to be original without having to wear a mask or act out?

Instant cuisine, to tickle your taste buds

After asking your date about her culinary preferences, you can:

• pull out all the stops and invite him to your home;
• break your piggy bank and book into a great restaurant;
• go against what she tells you to get her out of her comfort zone.

The first choice is a bit daring, the second is very expensive, and the third is a hit or miss.

What if you changed the rules a little by booking a cooking workshop? Original and fun, this moment for two will allow you to get to know each other while sprinkling your salmon with a few fine herbs.

Why is this date great?

It allows you to be in action, to do an activity, to share a moment that she will not forget. Whether you manage to cook your fish to perfection or the seasoning leaves something to be desired, you can be sure that this meeting will have a special place in her thoughts.

With what kind of woman?

The gourmand or gourmet, who loves the simple pleasures of life, but never denies herself a little indulgence.

The curious person who likes to do new things, get out of her familiar zone to explore and enjoy life to the fullest.

The shy, creative and sensual one who needs a good excuse to leave the comfort of her cozy apartment.

The femme fatale who is seduced at the bar and who wants to be surprised.

Oops, it’s slipping

You have now reached the end of your recipe. It is time to enjoy your dish. Your fingers have not stopped going back and forth on the seasonal fruits and vegetables that make up your dish in sauce. Several times you have brushed against each other, looked at each other and smiled.

Your senses are awakened. Who knows, the tasting might whet your appetite. Unless you prefer to enjoy your order by taking it to a more intimate place, to enjoy these beautiful flavors in peace.

“Player mode” activated, to put your cards on the table

The first date went well and you want to propose something fun and easy to move on to second base? Nothing like an afternoon or evening of games. Billiards, table football, darts, board games or arcade games, the choice is yours.

Why is this date great?

Because the metro-work-sleep routine is fine for two minutes and we all keep our childlike soul.

In addition, between strategy, laughter and challenge you will be able to discover your date in a new and authentic light (yes, it is very difficult not to get angry when you pass for the fourth time on the rue de la paix and with a hotel otherwise it is not funny).

Is Madame bad, into the challenge, a good loser or playing her charms so that you let her win? Nothing like the game to discover yourself without playing a role.

With what kind of woman?

The cheerful and bubbly girl for whom having fun is a philosophy of life.

The accountant who needs to let off steam.

The strategic woman who plans her moves to be sure of achieving her goals.

Oops, it’s slipping

Player and bettor, you were sure of your partner’s defeat and you are right, you win. Unless she did it on purpose? The loser is not always the one you think, especially when the rest of the evening depends on the end of the game.

An exhibition, before the aperitif

You don’t have to be an art critic to go to an exhibition. Plus, it’s a great way to get to know someone. By looking at a contemporary painting or sculpture, you’ll discover what moves your date and what leaves them cold.

Why is this date great?

Because beyond culture, choosing an exhibition that you like is a good way to reveal your true nature. Your more sensitive, more artistic side, and this, without having to sit down and unpack the story of your past.

From one work to another, your discussion continues. Photographs, sculptures or paintings, each work of art leads you to talk about yourself, about what you think of the exhibition.

Without realizing it, you will have talked for a few hours with your date, bringing up redundant topics such as:

1. How are things at work?
2. And otherwise, what else do you do in life?
3. Why were you on that dating app?

With what kind of woman?

The artist, the sensitive or the curious.

The chatterbox who loves to have new topics of conversation

The great lady who loves to educate herself

Oops, it’s slipping

Would this visit make you become a poet? You are now ready to propose a bucolic evening to your new acquaintance to continue the evening. Now that your sensitive artistic side is awakened, it does not want to go to bed early.

Enjoy discovering others and letting yourself be explored.

No matter what activity you choose for a first, second or third date, what ultimately matters is that you’re open to conversation and that it seems like you’re looking to have a good time.

The idea is not to think about the next step, but to live in the present moment. To seek and do what brings you happiness in the moment. You leave your activity and it rains? If the lady likes musicals, a little nod to Singing in the rain will definitely make her smile. Don’t be afraid of ridicule, it doesn’t kill anyone. Besides, the woman you are with is just as afraid of it as you are.

What makes a date original, authentic and above all makes you want to see each other again (or not) is YOU! A date is above all a human experience where strangers discover each other. The location is important, but if your interest in the other person (and vice versa) is based solely on being in a particular place, I advise you to ask yourself some questions…