After a passionate and intense affair, it’s common to find yourself alone after a break-up. Whether you were the one who decided to break up or the one who was dumped, the result is the same: you’re still in love, and you want your ex back in your life to fill your days and nights.
However, whether or not it’s viable to get back together with your ex is a matter of debate. Some believe that if a break-up has taken place, it’s because there was a deep-seated problem in the relationship. Others maintain that every couple is different and that there are no universal rules in this respect.
So it’s important not to let yourself be influenced by other people’s opinions, and to focus on what’s right for you. After all, it’s your life and only you can decide what’s right for you.
Now, how do you go about getting your ex back? There’s no simple answer, as it depends on a number of factors, such as the reason for the break-up, the length of the relationship, and the personalities and expectations of each individual.
In any case, it’s important not to rush things and to take the time to reflect on your feelings and motivations. It’s also essential to communicate honestly and openly with your ex, expressing your feelings and explaining why you want to get back together.
Finally, it’s important to work on yourself and improve your own qualities, such as self-confidence, listening and understanding the other person, in order to build a healthy and lasting relationship. Only by being honest with yourself and working on yourself can you hope to win back your ex and live a happy, fulfilling relationship.
- Dignity
You have to get over the pain of having lost her once. A break-up has all kinds of chemical and psychological effects on the body, some of them very difficult. Being used to the daily presence of someone and losing that person can be unsettling, worrying, disorienting and cause great suffering.
No matter how bad you feel or how sad you are, it’s important to dry your tears. Above all, don’t go begging or weeping to win her back. If you beg, she may run away and get annoyed at having to deal with your pain. So start by dealing with your pain before you set out to win her back. This is step number 1 in a successful operation.
- The king of silence
Your step number 2 is NOT flamboyant love letters, or gifts from Chanel on your doorstep. Your step number 2 is going to be like that game you used to play as a child with your siblings, often motivated by your parents (let’s face it) to keep the peace. It’s called King of Silence. The concept is simple: the first one to speak loses.
It’s quite simple. Whether it’s you who’s left her or the other way round, what we all dream of a little secretly, covered in shame, is to see the other crawling at our feet, since we are of course INAUDIBLE. So if you satisfy her, not only will she be satisfied, but she may continue to ignore you just to keep you going, to satisfy her ego. But if you ignore her, if you don’t give her that pleasure, it’s possible that you’ll sting her ego and self-esteem a little and she’ll wonder “Why doesn’t he pester me with attention, me being so exceptional?”. This will give you a break that will allow you to improve your state of suffering a little, so that you can regain your dignity and peace of mind when you come into contact.
- The contact
For a first contact, don’t text or e-mail. Make a phone call. Call her. If she doesn’t answer, don’t leave a message, and call back two or three days later, if she hasn’t called you back by then.
Offer to meet, but not on the same day. Suggest the following week, to give her time and make her want you a little. And if she proposes the same day, or the following day, refuse!
- The date
Here, you don’t skimp on the means. Unless she has a particular interest in MacDonald’s, suggest a date at a place you know she’ll like, something that will please her in advance, because you know her. Be very presentable, funny and relaxed.
And we don’t take everything on our own shoulders, but a modicum of self-reflection is welcome when it comes to the big “Why did we get here?
And finally, leave her a little hungry by letting her go home alone tonight. You’re not a night away!