Give gifts to seduce? Not always…

The art of giving gifts to seduce has long been a common strategy among some men. This approach, though popular, raises questions about the nature of a man’s intentions when offering gifts to the woman he seeks to win over. On the face of it, this technique seems quite seductive, and may lead one to believe that the man is generous and concerned for the well-being of his conquest. However, women have worked hard to gain their independence and have struggled to be recognized as autonomous beings, capable of making their own decisions and providing for themselves.

As a result, giving gifts as a means of seduction can easily be misinterpreted as an attempt to haggle or negotiate. Indeed, it can give the impression that the man is trying to buy the woman by offering her things she couldn’t afford herself. Yet modern women are self-sufficient and financially independent, and don’t want to be seen as needy paupers who would be delighted to receive gifts from their suitor.

In this context, the Lover must show subtlety and intelligence to win over his lady. He must treat her as an equal, offering her activities to share without necessarily systematically giving her expensive gifts. The gifts the Lover offers his conquest should not be ostentatious presents, but rather useful objects to share or experiences to enjoy together. For example, if he knows that his lady loves a certain TV series, he could copy the season she’s missing onto a USB key. If he knows she’s desperate for a specific cable to transfer images from her smartphone to her tablet, he could find one for her. If he knows she’s a fan of a certain musical genre, he could introduce her to a new artist in that style. In short, it’s not about giving expensive gifts on which you can almost guess the price, but rather about giving useful objects or experiences to share.

It’s important for the Lover not to play the role of provider, as this could offend his conquest. He needs to treat her with respect and show her that he sees her as an equal, with her own preferences and opinions. By accepting any gifts his lady might give him, he shows her that they’re both on an equal footing. This approach turns traditional seduction codes on their head and revolutionizes male/female relationships. It’s an evolved, modern approach that reflects the expectations of today’s society and enables the Lover to behave like an improved gentleman, a perfect representative of the quintessential male.

Ultimately, this approach enables both men and women to build a balanced relationship based on mutual respect and complicity.