It’s important not to let the conversation fall flat when you first meet your partner. Finding interesting topics to talk about can help avoid awkward moments of silence and blank stares. To help you break the ice, here are some conversation topics that tend to be popular and generate interest.
Additionally, it is crucial to avoid questions that require a simple, direct answer. Closed-ended questions can harm the dynamics of the conversation by discouraging interaction and mutual discovery. It is better to focus on open-ended and engaging discussion topics.
Share the speaking time between you. It is important to let the person opposite you speak so as not to come across as a total narcissist! You can also turn the conversation into a guessing game, it could become fun and interesting.
And now, let’s see what to discuss for a successful evening.
Talk about your passions : Most people have one or more passions. If this is not your case, you are doomed to celibacy because who wants to share the life of a man without passion? So talk about what moves you, what lights you up. When the fire shines in your eyes, it is the most beautiful side of yourself that you expose to the person in front of you, and it always has its effect!
Talk about travel : obviously, if you don’t like traveling, it will be dead in the egg! But with a bit of luck, you like adventure, and if it’s not in exotic countries, it will at least be for stays in the mountains or at the beach… According to an analysis by the American dating site OkCupid, 18% of couples who mentioned traveling saw each other a second time.
Talk about your family situation : have you been single forever, are you separated, divorced, with or without children, are your relationships with your family strained or harmonious, etc. If you still live with your parents or have 3 children, it is better for your date to find out now…
Talk about your professional situation : women are always curious to know what their date does for a living. Firstly, to find out if they are dealing with a profiteer, a chronic unemployed person, who will try to seduce them in order to get taken care of. Secondly, to determine if their date’s profession will be compatible with their own life. For example, if you are a police officer, your conquest may think that life with a cop is not her cup of tea! Thirdly, because sometimes the profession you do will impress her and women love to be surprised by a man whose professional occupation is exceptional.
Discuss the talent you would like to have : would you have liked to be a painter or an archaeologist, a footballer or a tap dancer? Revealing a small part of yourself and asking for the same in return can already bring you into a zone of intimacy by sharing this secret…
Discuss your dream home : a loft in New York or a tropical house on an island? The idea of confiding in each other about this type of aspiration allows you to project into the future but also gives you a good anticipation of what your life together could be like, if ever…
Talk about your wildest dreams : yes, it’s always fascinating to discover your date’s wildest dream (having Superman’s powers, orbiting in space one day, etc.).
Discuss an era you would have liked to experience : experiencing courtly love during the Renaissance, being a philosopher in Antiquity, being a member of a hippie community in the 1970s…
Talk about people who have positively influenced your life : whether it’s a loved one, a famous man or woman, who is this person who will have changed your life? Talking positively about the people around you creates, according to Professor John Skowronski, a boomerang effect that encourages people to see you positively as well. Therefore, a word of advice: don’t denigrate anyone in front of your date, especially not your ex. If, on the other hand, your conquest is a viper’s tongue, don’t waste your time with her, it will only come out negative.
Talk about your guilty pleasures : it’s always funny to discover the slightly shameful side that some people feel when they like something that others make fun of. But assuming your guilty pleasures is proving that you’re in good shape.
Discuss your perception of animals : animals occupy a large place in the lives of many humans. According to a 2020 survey, more than 30% of households have at least one cat and 20% at least one dog. In 2021, there were 3.6 million small mammals such as rabbits, rats, guinea pigs or hamsters in French families. This means that the question of pets is to be explored fairly quickly with your conquest. Either you both love animals and life is beautiful, or one of you does not like them and it will be complicated, or you do not like either of them and the question will be settled right away.
Arts, movies, current events, the environment, global warming, Netflix, in short, there are enough topics to discuss with a new person that there is no downtime between you. If you are short on topics with your date, it may be because there is no chemistry between you. In this case, no conversation idea will be able to save you from this incompatibility. Give him a goodbye kiss and move on!