The ability to make fun of oneself is one of the Lover’s most appreciated characteristics. Indeed, self-mockery shows a certain humility and a sense of humor that can be very appealing.
It also shows that the Lover doesn’t take himself too seriously and is able to laugh at his own mistakes and weaknesses. This is a very important quality in a relationship, as it shows that the Lover is open to learning and self-improvement.
However, it’s important to strike a balance between self-deprecation and self-respect. Excessive self-deprecation can sometimes be interpreted as a lack of self-confidence or a way of putting yourself down. So it’s important to know how to dose self-mockery and not overdo it.
It’s often said that self-mockery is an essential quality in a man, and this is particularly true of our Lover. Indeed, a man who is incapable of laughing at himself cannot be considered someone who is capable of questioning his behavior or his methods. Our Lover is a constantly evolving individual, capable of adapting to different situations depending on his past experiences or the reactions of the women he meets.
That’s why he doesn’t hesitate to make fun of himself in the presence of women, which gives a much-appreciated image of his personality. Women are often seduced by this man who doesn’t take himself too seriously, and who is able to laugh at his own mistakes. They say to themselves: “This guy’s really cool, he’s so different from the others who take themselves too seriously. It’s nice to be in the company of a man who doesn’t take himself too seriously.”
Indeed, between the young dynamic executives who show off beyond reality, the big rednecks who think they’ve invented the cutting edge, the spontaneous artists who drip with susceptibility when you don’t understand their trash culture, the old crooners who haven’t yet understood that experience no longer counts in the Internet age, we can confirm loud and clear: the man with a sense of humor and self-mockery is a breath of fresh air that will blow us all away!
How do you make fun of yourself, and how often? Obviously, subtlety and the right balance are essential when it comes to poking fun at yourself. The Lover will always find the right moment to make a jibe at a word or attitude that he or she feels should be mocked. It’s all calculated. He certainly won’t make fun of a side of himself that causes him problems in life. He’ll only gently ridicule the little flaws that seem so insignificant. Nor will he spend the evening shooting himself down just for the pleasure of making Madame smile. Between you and me, that would become outright denigration, and that’s not what women like.
So you’ll have to consider, gentlemen, the necessary balance between making her laugh and not sabotaging your image. Rely on all those little habits that may seem maniacal, but are really just household guidelines. For example, the way you keep the toilet lid down, or the way you sit on the toilet seat, as Scandinavian men are advised to do to avoid splashing.
Other examples: you systematically leave traces of toothpaste in the sink, you’re no good at vacuuming, you drink your Coke out of a champagne flute, you wear socks in your sandals (that’s heresy, no less), you spend hours scrubbing the bodywork of your car, you don’t like soccer, you love charentaises, and so on. In short, anything that either removes you from the usual male stereotypes, or makes you look like a domestic rebel.
Only admit to things that are not serious. You could also make a few forays into the psychological realm, poking fun at your paranoia about checking 3 times to make sure you’ve locked your door, or jokingly admitting that you need to be told the same thing 4 times before you print because you have attention deficit disorder, but… A wise woman might conclude that these seemingly trivial manifestations could be hiding much more serious problems. There’s no need to tip her off if this is the case, and stick to the little flaws that will make her smile and not run away!