Online Dating Glossary

With the advent of the virtual world, online dating is becoming increasingly popular. It has become easier to flirt from anywhere, without having to travel. However, this relaxed approach to finding a partner is not without its risks. It is therefore important to understand the different online dating techniques to avoid disappointment.

To help you better understand the different online flirting techniques, here is a small glossary of the most used trends by seductive women on dating apps. This understanding will allow you to quickly distinguish honest approaches from those that seek to manipulate or entertain you without any real intention of meeting.

Breadcrumbing : This technique consists of keeping the hope of a relationship with you alive by scattering little crumbs of kindness and encouragement on your account. Likes here and there, a one-off hello to let you know she’s thinking of you, a furtive comment that makes you believe she’s interested in what you say or do. The “breadcrumber” usually does this to keep you in reserve in case she can’t find better or because she doesn’t have the courage to admit that you’re not interesting to her.

Breezing : the tendency to take nothing seriously and play it casual. No pressure, no promises, no commitment, just the pleasure of the moment. No rules, we go with the flow, on both sides. If you want fun without the hassle, now is the time.

Cricketing: another method of creating expectations and insecurities in the other person. You sent a message to your crush. You see that she read it but she doesn’t answer you. Either she loves to be desired, and she waits for you to insist, or she is narcissistic and it excites her to keep you marinated in uncertainty. Favor frank and uncomplicated communications. So move on to someone else!

Cuffing : This could be a hibernation syndrome but more vicious. It consists of finding a companion to keep warm during the winter season… Nothing too bad but when spring comes back, the lady’s desires awaken and she will let you go without the slightest regret. Make sure you don’t become a seasonal cuddly toy.

Cushioning : This is the art of flirting on dating sites while you are in a relationship. To test the woman you are in a relationship with on the chats, ask her about her availability regularly. If she is never free in the evenings, there is a good chance that she is already engaged. Unless you are also and this situation suits you completely, look elsewhere.

Fauxbae’ing : Some people who seek success at all costs on social networks invent an idyllic romantic relationship, the aim of which is to arouse lust and attract potential suitors. Don’t fall for it. A sincere and fulfilled woman will not resort to this kind of subterfuge to seduce you.

Fast-forwarding : The tendency to reveal your intentions and the goal of the relationship up front. If a woman approaches you directly and gives you the facts, it’s a good sign. She knows what she wants. And if you’re ready for this kind of determined Valkyrie, you’d be crazy to deprive yourself of it.

Firedooring : refers to a one-sided romantic relationship. If you find that you are the only one giving, the only one proposing, the only one investing in the relationship, whether you are still on the dating app or have already moved on to real dates, then you are “firedoored”. Your suitor is putting up her fire door. Her interest in you is rather vague. In this case, have enough respect for yourself, enough love for yourself to refuse this treatment. It is wrong to believe that you do not deserve better. So slam her “firedoor” in her face and be happy with someone else.

Fizzling : This is a long-term breakup technique. More elegant than ghosting, which is downright brutal, fizzling allows you to distance yourself from the other person by spacing out, day after day, the volume of messages or manifestations towards them. The good news is that you will have time to see it coming. So to avoid suffering, rip the bandage off all at once!

Fishing : On a dating app, nothing is more natural than fishing. After all, you are really fishing. Therefore, if you receive a first message from an incredible mermaid and you think that this message was concocted expressly for you, there is a 70% chance that other men have received the same message. Between us, we do not change the hook every time we put the line back in the water…

Flexting : the tendency to invent a personality that has nothing to do with who you really are. Obviously, men and women easily fall into this trap. We want to promote an image of ourselves that is so embellished (photo filter, upgraded moral and physical qualities, etc.) that on the first date, it’s a disaster. If the woman you meet has nothing to do with the model she showed you on her account, run away! A woman who doesn’t assume who she is will always try to impress you with qualities she doesn’t have. That said, it would be wise to refrain from doing the same…

Gaslighting : a flirting strategy based on creating wonderful, immediate, intense romantic connections that will make you believe that you are the chosen one, but whose ultimate goal is to take power over your being to completely subjugate it. How to recognize a “gaslighter”? She will be charming, pleasant, will tell you how you are the pinnacle of everything, until the day the honeymoon turns into a nightmare. Little by little, all your qualities will become flaws in her eyes, she will provoke doubts in you, isolate you from the people you care about, she will take control of your brain and keep you under her influence. The little thing that should immediately put you on guard to make you run away: she does not like those around you and seeks to gradually discredit them.

Ghosting : the worst of all manifestations of contempt in a relationship! This dishonest, even despicable, process allows a woman with whom you have been in a relationship for a while to erase you from her life without the slightest explanation. She becomes a ghost. You will be haunted for a long time, eaten away by ignorance of the reasons that led to this unexpected breakup. There is no worse torture than not knowing…

Ghostbusting : the revenge of the “ghosted”! If unfortunately, you have already “ghosted” a woman and you realize that she is constantly showing herself to you, by intervening on your social networks for example, we advise you not to ignore it. Ghostbusting is a growing practice because the “ghosted” want their revenge and they will not stop harassing their “ghoster” until they have obtained satisfaction. Your only option: give her the explanation she deserves.

Haunting : the ultimate unfair technique! You spent some time as a couple with a woman and she dumped you. However, she keeps following you on social networks, she likes your posts, adds emojis, doesn’t miss any of your interventions, in short she haunts you. The best thing for you, if you want to move on, is to block her everywhere. Bye Bye ex!

Hobby-dating : a flirting method that involves targeting people who share the same hobbies as you. A woman asks you straight away what your hobbies are, you can tell right away that she doesn’t like wasting time and that she may not be very open to getting out of her comfort zone. If you like women who like to control everything…

Love-bombing : Love-bombing is an intense display of love from one person towards another person with the intention, conscious or not, of completely manipulating them after a certain amount of time. If a woman expresses her love to you in every way, buries you with affection, smothers you with kindness, it may be time to put yourself in survival mode and quickly leave this lover who risks becoming toxic.

Mosting : Another method that is at the very least odious! This is about making you believe that you are unique to your date. She will cover you with compliments, tell you how much you mean in her life, that she wants a long-term relationship to build something solid, and then bam! Another disappearance. Be wary of women who are too quick to commit.

Phubbing : An unsightly tactic to show your detachment, your lack of interest in the other person. If you have managed to get a real date with a woman who snubs you by not letting go of her smartphone, you are in the presence of a “phubber”. You will have better things to do than stay with this slob with an oversized ego.

Serendipidating : This rather questionable technique consists of the woman who is chatting with you constantly putting off a first date. If this is the case, you can already give her an ultimatum: now or never… It’s a safe bet that if she delays seeing you, it’s because you don’t really interest her but she’s keeping you as a distraction in the meantime.

Sneating: the tendency (especially for women) to flirt with a sugar daddy to get invited to a restaurant or somewhere else, knowing that it won’t go any further, just to enjoy pleasant favors without having to end up in bed. If you’re that old man who doesn’t pay attention to age gaps that are a bit too big, it could be that at the end of the evening, only your purse will be relieved.

Soft ghosting : when your crush starts responding to you with emojis or just says “OK” to interact with you, she’s gently telling you that she’s not interested in what you’re saying. It’s therefore obvious that she’ll “ghost” you soon. So take the lead…

Stashing : This flirting method, often practiced by a woman already in a relationship or by a woman who does not assume the relationships she initiates, will consist of hiding her relationship with you. She will not tell anyone that you exist, she will never publish a photo concerning your relationship, will not keep any trace of your existence in her life, in any form whatsoever. If non-existence suits you, you will have found the right partner.

Trash dating : what is called trash dating is a one-night stand. If you are looking for a serious relationship, it is better that you avoid women who practice it. You could stupidly fall in love and never be able to forget her. It would be a shame for you because there is no doubt that the next day, she will no longer think about you.

The trouple : or ménage à trois. As old as the world, trouples can bring a lot of freshness into your life if your open-mindedness allows it. If this is the case, and a woman tries at all costs to introduce you to a third party while you are trying to get closer to her, it may be that you have two people to love in the end…

Wokefishing : being woke is mainstream! But the new trend is to convey “woke” values or to pretend to be woke for mass seduction, even if the pick-up artist does not share this philosophy at all. This is a kind of “targeting” that allows you to reach the greatest number of potential partners. This type of targeting can be extended to any other philosophy of life, political allegiance, love of dogs, cats, etc. So if a person insists on one of your preferences, tell yourself that they may be trying to convince you that they share this preference but that is not the case. Trap them with a particularly meticulous questionnaire on the subject, you will see what they have in their belly… and in their mind!

Zombieing : A woman you’ve been chatting with for some time, and with whom you have a pleasant relationship, suddenly disappears and doesn’t give you any more news. Then, she resurrects days or weeks later, as suddenly as she had disappeared, and resumes conversations with you naturally, with an excuse that is not very relevant, like: “I was traveling for family reasons…”. Don’t get me wrong. She had simply met a plan that seemed much better to her than you, and in the end she was wrong. It’s up to you to decide if this zombie deserves a second chance.

And now that you are aware of several of these little methods of flirting on dating sites, you will need a good dose of discernment and agility to avoid the pitfalls and navigate fluidly in this world of romantic rafting… Good luck!