Online dating

Online dating has revolutionized the way people meet and interact. Online dating sites and apps offer a multitude of choices for lovers in search of their soulmate. While some may see dating as a superficial way of finding love, these platforms can also facilitate meaningful and lasting relationships. For Lovers, dating is yet another way to meet new people and connect with like-minded individuals.

How do you land dates on dating sites? The Lover shares his tips on how to do it without overdoing it.

First of all, it’s important to avoid certain mistakes.

• Avoid putting a photo of your sex as your profile picture, even if you’re on a naughty site. Women won’t necessarily be attracted to a photo of this attribute, and it can even have the opposite effect. What’s more, a man’s sex is more attractive when it’s linked to the man as a whole, not in isolation.
• Avoid approaching women rudely, with vulgar and offensive language such as “Do you suck?” or “You’re good, I want to put it in you”. Not only are these attitudes disrespectful, they’re also not effective in seducing.

Next, here are the Lover’s tips for landing dates:

• Be sincere and authentic in your profile, without overdoing it. Emphasize your strengths, but don’t overdo it. Women prefer men who present themselves honestly and naturally.
• Be creative and original in your first message. Avoid copy-and-paste messages, and take the time to read the person’s profile to find an interesting, personalized topic of discussion.
• Be patient and persistent. Dating sites can sometimes be frustrating, but it’s important not to get discouraged and to keep actively looking for dates.

By following these tips, you’ll increase your chances of getting dates with people who really suit you.

Desire cannot be imposed, it must be aroused. That’s why it’s important to greet the woman politely, so you can get to know her better. Men are not used to being constantly harassed or assaulted. To better understand this situation, we can do a little mental reflection. Imagine a woman who fits the stereotype of what you’re not at all attracted to, whatever the criteria. Now imagine this same woman making insistent advances, telling you she’d like to take you every which way. This is a very aggressive situation for someone who has no attraction whatsoever to this person imposing herself on his or her vital space. So it’s important to make sure the person is receptive before engaging in more naughty discussions. By introducing yourself simply and pleasantly, you can get some information about the person’s receptiveness and thus pursue more daring exchanges later on, for example by saying: “Hello, my name is Benoît, I think you’re really pretty and I’d like to chat with you!”.

Avoid proposing a first date at home, as this can be intimidating for a woman. Instead, suggest an activity that’s out of the ordinary. Having a drink is fine, but everybody does it. Try to stand out from the crowd by proposing an interesting activity, such as a vernissage, a cooking class or a walk. It’s a great way to experience different contexts and get people talking. You’ll stand out from the crowd and, even if the date doesn’t work out, you’ll still have had a great time.

In short, being a dating pro means being attentive, subtle and enterprising all at once. Be active, but adapt to your interlocutor!