Mastering body language

Mastering body language is essential for anyone wishing to improve their communication skills, whether in the context of seduction or in any other context. Our bodies send out non-verbal signals that can betray our emotions, intentions or state of mind.

Learning to decipher and use these signals can help us to better understand others and ourselves. This involves working on our posture, gestures, facial expression and voice, to create coherent, effective communication. It can also involve becoming aware of our emotions and physical state, and managing them in such a way that they don’t interfere with the non-verbal communication we wish to convey. In short, mastering body language means mastering an essential part of human communication.

When it comes to seducing, or even just communicating, what we say or do is important, but how we do it is just as important. Our bodies can involuntarily convey a great deal of information, sometimes even the opposite of what we say. We call this body language, or non-verbal communication. Our attitudes, gestures, postures and movements reveal our personality and can convey different emotions or intentions, so it’s important to pay attention to them according to the contexts in which we evolve.

For a job interview, for a meeting with people in difficulty in social work for example, or in your seduction approach of course.

If you try to show your interviewer that you’re comfortable in your own skin by standing hunched over, slouching or talking to your feet, chances are she won’t believe you at all.

So here’s what you need to pay attention to to boost your body language and make yourself irresistible.

• Your posture

Stand up straight. A man who is bent over or slouching is a man who carries the unhappiness of the world with him. It’s very off-putting to meet someone who looks unhappy or tormented, especially if you’re in the festive spirit of having a good time. So you need to energize yourself, and even if at first this posture doesn’t seem natural, it will gradually become so and maybe even give you self-confidence.

If you find it difficult, don’t hesitate to take up a physical activity that encourages you in this direction, such as volleyball or tennis. A sport that strengthens your back.

• Keep your head up

Don’t look at your feet when you’re talking to the woman you’re courting. To captivate a woman, you have to appear to be captivated by what you’re saying. Holding your gaze, speaking clearly and distinctly, opening your face and keeping your head upright help your interlocutor to enter into the conversation and thus become interested in you. It gives you a great deal of presence, and that’s a real plus.

• Body position

Ideally, you shouldn’t cross your arms, as this creates a distance, a psychological and physical barrier with your interlocutor. Keeping your arms outstretched isn’t very attractive either; it makes you look soft. Hands in pockets can convey insecurity – you never know what you’re going to do with them, or if you’re looking for something.

So it’s best to use your hands and arms to emphasize what you’re saying, without fidgeting too much. Use them to describe something you’re talking about, or to punctuate a sentence.

• The smile, the ultimate weapon

And yes, someone who smiles is someone you want to smile at. It puts you at ease, and it always warms up an atmosphere to be in front of someone who smiles and sees life on the bright side. By exuding well-being and serenity, you unconsciously invite the other person into your world, because there’s plenty of room. You don’t come across as someone who’s desperate or who needs someone else to live, but simply as someone who feels good about themselves and wants to share that with someone else.

So pay attention to your body language, which may even give you self-confidence without you realizing it.