How to make your mother-in-law like you?

This is a delicate question that concerns many men. It is important to remember that the relationship with your mother-in-law can be very important to the couple, so it is important to make efforts to create a bond. Here are some tips to please your mother-in-law: be courteous, considerate and respectful towards her, show her interest and consideration, share activities that she is passionate about, give sincere compliments and avoid controversial topics. It is also important to be honest and authentic, while maintaining a positive and constructive attitude. Finally, try to find common ground and shared interests to establish a positive and lasting relationship with your mother-in-law.

Ah, mothers-in-law, they have a strange reputation. For centuries, they have been described as mean, authoritarian women. This cliché is well-established and the stereotype of the mother-in-law is an endless source of jokes, proverbs, films, songs, etc.

I’m sharing some quotes with you to better scare you beforehand.

“Every mother-in-law is a piece of the devil’s panties.”

Alsatian proverb

“Mother-in-law, even if she is made of sugar, is bitter.”

Spanish proverb

So, you’ve managed to meet and seduce the partner of your dreams, you’re bathing in happiness…

Yes, but, she wants to introduce you to her parents. This idea stresses you out to no end. You’re going to have to meet her parents and please them if you don’t want to feel awkward for the next few years.

Let’s be clear: trying to get your mother-in-law to like you is completely normal and a sign of maturity.

Our tips for getting into your mother-in-law’s good books.

Do a little research before

A good strategy to make your mother-in-law like you is to take an interest in her activities, hobbies, and talents. This is the time to open your investigation. Don’t hesitate to find information about what she likes from your partner and try to find common ground. It will be easier when you meet to find topics of conversation that she likes.

It is quite possible that you do not have the same interests.

You are a dog, while she is a cat.

It doesn’t matter, you can smooth things out by doing a little research on cats beforehand: breeds, main character traits, etc.

The good news is that you don’t have to prefer cats, to respect them, but you still have to make an effort. You just have to go to specialized sites to discover the qualities and faults of our little felines to be able to exchange with your mother-in-law.

Make your child happy

Your mother-in-law needs to feel how much you care about her child. In fact, deep down, she is only looking for his happiness and when she sees that you are a big part of it, she will respect you if not adulate you.

Compliment your new mother-in-law

Flattery is an unstoppable tactic when used tactfully. So don’t hesitate to use it to win over your mother-in-law. During each visit, don’t forget to give her a nice compliment like: “You went to the hairdresser, it suits you well, I must say that you have beautiful hair, I know who got my darling’s hair.”

You should never forget to compliment her on her talents as a great chef at every meal and above all finish your plate to show your good faith!

As you will have understood, you must always have a kind word for her, without overdoing it at the risk of appearing hypocritical and that is not the goal.

Give him little gifts

Of course, love cannot be bought, but gifts are used to express our affection to our loved ones. And your mother-in-law is now part of the family circle.

Give her little attentions: a bouquet of flowers, a scented candle or a box of chocolates will be perfect to show your interest in her.

Remembering his birthday.

Set a reminder on your calendar so you never miss the date.

On the big day, send a friendly message.

Do him a favor

To make yourself appreciated by your mother-in-law, you can also do her little favors, especially if she asks you to.

Consider the fact that she is addressing you as a mark of trust.

Of course, you also need to set your limits if she is abusive, so that she understands that you will not give in to all her wishes.

Be careful

Tensions with mothers-in-law often come from a hint of jealousy for the person who took her baby’s heart. This is a human emotion that everyone will express in their own way.

To avoid constant rivalry, listen to your mother-in-law. She will see that you are not insensitive and that you understand what she feels.

By placing yourself as a friend and not as a rival, you will show her that she is not losing a child, but on the contrary, she is gaining a son. Let us leave you with a smile and this witty remark from Pierre Doris: “For the last New Year’s Eve, I gave my mother-in-law a chair, for the next one, I will have it electrified .”