How to impress without looking like a dork

When you go on a first date with a woman, your objective is simple : don’t screw it up. The first impression says a lot about you, because before we really know a person, we all have an intuition, a feeling, which deviates from the rational and intimate knowledge we can have of a person.

Even though this first impression may seem animal, chemical and uncontrollable, it’s still largely possible to give it a direction. What is purely chemical cannot be controlled, but it’s up to you to concentrate on what you can control and make it as positive as possible.

So here we are with the fateful question : how do you impress a woman without showing off?

First of all, before you even meet this woman, where are you meeting her?
And why? The idea here is to arouse his attention and curiosity even before meeting you. Avoid awkward contexts, the tête-à-tête restaurant or the good old coffee at the local PMU. Do something together.

Depending on the person you’re dealing with, suggest a cultural outing, such as an exhibition or a derbouka class. An activity during which things happen outside of you and her, but which will create complicity and subjects for discussion other than ” what do you do for a living? “. What’s more, women like men who are curious and like to do entertaining things. That’s the implicit promise of an eventful day.

You’ll also stand out from all the others who’ll be offering her a drink in a trendy bar at 9:30pm. And if your date doesn’t work out, you’ll still have done something interesting! Don’t choose an activity that bores you just to impress her, of course. You don’t want her to read ” allez-simple-pour-la-dépression ” on your face, and then she’s likely to ask you to do the same thing or similar several times later, until you reveal that you’ve been lying and that it’s pissing you off. Just be the dynamic version of yourself.

The second thing to remember once you’re on the track : don’t put yourself under too much pressure. This event should be a pleasure, not the challenge of the century.

The equation is relatively simple : too much pressure = too much at stake = too much anxiety = no naturalness = failure.

The girl in question should sense that you’re relaxed, so you exude a certain self-confidence. You’re indirectly conveying the message that this is just the first date, and that you’re saving your cards for the next.

In short, naturalness, enthusiasm and a good dose of chill will help you to make this first date a simple and pleasant moment for her, making her want to go on more.