How to give your partner multiple orgasms?

We challenge you to become an expert in giving your partner multiple orgasms in one month. This challenge is especially aimed at female partners, as the clitoris is considered a jewel of the human body. Over the next four weeks, you will learn:

• How to Focus on Pleasure Instead of Orgasm
• How to use sex toys
• All the tips to help you become an orgasm master

Week 1

Exercise 1: Stop thinking about orgasm

Orgasm is not the end goal of good sex. Orgasm happens because your partner is really enjoying themselves. Make your partner feel good and don’t focus so much on orgasm at the beginning.

Think about fun rather than performance.

Exercise 2: Watch your partner pleasure themselves

Ask your partner if she has ever had multiple orgasms and if so how she achieves them. Ask her to pleasure herself in front of you. To start your challenge, what better way than to watch her do it.

And even if your partner has never had multiple orgasms, figuring out what she likes will help. Once your partner has orgasmed, take a breath. After 10 minutes, try to mimic the moves you saw yourself doing.

Exercise 3: Buying lubricant

Any orgasm, let alone multiple orgasms, will be difficult if your partner’s vulva is dry.

Lube is the best thing in the world for pleasure, yet we have a strangely pervasive idea that if your partner isn’t wet, she’s not aroused. This isn’t true. Wetness doesn’t always indicate arousal. Therefore, lube should always be a MUST.

Week 2

Exercise 4: Add a vibrator

Vibration is one of the most reliable ways to achieve orgasm when you have a clitoris. Don’t think of sex toys as your enemy, think of them as your teammates. They are there to offer you a helping hand in this quest for pleasure.

Then do exercise 2 again, this time with the sex toy. It may be helpful to give your partner some alone time with their new toy. Masturbation is how we discover what we like, and when you have a new sex toy, it can take some time to get to know each other.

Exercise 5: Start stimulating your partner very slowly

OK, you’ve moved on to partner play after following exercises 1 through 4. Orgasms are the peak of a build-up of tension.

There’s no reason to build up that tension by going from 0 to 60 quickly. Take it slow. If you know what stimulation brings your partner to their first orgasm, you can start there.

Then continue very, very slowly.

Try kissing your partner’s neck, licking their nipples, etc. Take your time going down. You shouldn’t literally time yourself (because that sounds unsexy), but try to move as slowly as possible. Make your partner beg you to touch her clit. This can be difficult, but the more you practice, the better it gets.

Exercise 6: Focus on your partner’s signals

Being a great lover is all about paying attention to nonverbal and physical cues.

In the quest for more orgasms, attention should also be paid to the post-orgasmic recovery period.

Remember, it’s perfectly okay to ask if you’re not sure. It doesn’t have to be too complex.

Week 3

Exercise 7: Move attention away from the clitoris

Once your partner has had an orgasm, her clitoris may be very sensitive. The next step for more orgasms is to redirect the focus a little to other parts of the genitals. The vulva is full of nerve endings, so there are plenty of areas to explore.

Start slowly again, then move on to harder, faster touch. You can use your fingers, tongue, and objects to gently stroke or rub fiercely around the vulva.

After an orgasm, start by gently kissing and licking the outer thighs, then move inward. Try licking up and down the outer lips, then move inward. Remember to pay attention to your partner’s signals! If she seems to be enjoying herself, keep moving. This is to keep the slow burn going so you can build up to the orgasmic peak without overstimulating your partner.

Exercise 8: Find your route in 3 steps

Orgasm is all about properly stimulating the nerve endings.

The problem? When you’re seeking multiple orgasms, nerve endings can become overstimulated, which can lead to sensitivity or pain.

The game is to find your path with 3 main forms of stimulation.

For example: oral, penetration, vibration or vibration, oral, anal or manual, vibration, penetration.

It takes time and practice, but figuring out what your partner enjoys is a big step toward multiple orgasms. You could give her her first orgasm with cunnilingus and her second by penetrating her with a vibrator.

The key is to have options in your toolbox.

Exercise 9: Playing with your limits

The limit is when you tease your partner with oral sex, handjobs, penetrative sex, a toy, etc., until she is about to orgasm, only to stop just before she climaxes. Once she calms down, you start the whole sexual stimulation process again.

Why is this good for multiple orgasms? Because it will AWAKEN nerve endings your partner didn’t even know she had. Preparing for an orgasm, only to stop stimulation at the last second, can lead to better, stronger, more intense orgasms.

You can also ask them to tell you when she feels like she’s coming, because play should be done with full consent. If everyone is on the same page, communication becomes easier.

Week 4

Exercise 10: Pay attention to speed and regularity

A softer, lighter touch sometimes requires increased speed as you approach orgasm but you have to remember that different people respond to stimulation in different ways. That’s why it becomes so important to know your partner’s pleasure preferences. There are too many times when we think that faster and harder means better. This is not always the case.

What’s really important is consistency. If something works, stick with it. Remember, orgasm is built from tension in the body, peaking at the height of sexual response. For that tension to build, most people need to be stimulated in the same spot, with a certain rhythm, to reach their peak. So, slowly build up the tension by teasing your partner with all the fun tips we’ve gathered so far, and then stay consistent until orgasm.

Exercise 11: It’s time to experiment

Remember the 3-part cycle from Exercise 8? Once your partner has had their first orgasm, take those three forms of stimulation, forget about them, and get ready to try new things.

Many women don’t know what they are capable of, and the reason they don’t think it is possible is because after the first orgasm they are so sensitive, and without recovery time, direct stimulation can be painful. In this case, a few adjustments can make the difference between one orgasm and two.

Try other sexy things like nipple stimulation instead of genital stimulation and then go back to more direct stimulation.

Exercise 12: Be prepared to abandon this challenge if it stops being fun or sexy.

The final piece of this challenge is learning when to move on. It’s not about quitting or giving up. It’s about learning, understanding things, and being open to things that deviate from the “Plan.”

Not everyone desires multiple orgasms. Women vary in their sexuality, preferences, and orgasm patterns. It’s important not to push people into new sexual tricks to satisfy your own ego, but to listen to what your partner wants.

Likewise, if your partner was hell-bent on clowning around in the multi-orgasmic universe and this 4-week challenge is proving to be exhausting and tedious, there are other things you can do. As we said at the beginning—and we’ll keep saying forever—sex isn’t about achieving all these “goals.” It’s about enjoying your bodies and enjoying each other.

I hope trying these exercises was a way to bring you closer together as lovers. If so, you did a great job.