How not to be the “nerdy guy”

What does it mean to be considered nerdy?

Considering that life moves quickly, an attitude or behavior that was considered super cool a few years ago can be completely outdated in the early 21st century. The line between what is trendy and what is mainstream is often thin or quickly changing. Dictionaries agree that nerdy is that which is mediocre, outdated or old-fashioned. So, to better understand and become more knowledgeable about what is considered nerdy, we will identify the faux pas in terms of tastes or behaviors that can label you as nerdy to avoid at all costs.

Here are some examples to get you started:

1/ Banish the lamentation mode, there is already a wall for that…

Avoid Calimero mode, women can no longer stand losers and men who see the glass as half empty rather than half full. They rarely want to replace your mother to comfort you or take care of you because you are not mature enough to do it yourself.

Along the same lines, they won’t be fascinated by a male who has preconceived ideas about everything, who has a Cro-Magnon mentality or who has the narcissism of a movie star. Guys who complain about everything because everything doesn’t match their worldview have no chance of seducing an interesting woman.

2/ Put away the grandpa jokes in the closet

The worst are the hackneyed expressions, like: see you tomorrow, see you soon; you have beautiful eyes, you know; what do you eat to be so pretty, etc.

No fixed opinion on girls, either. Macho men are in the red these days, we call it toxic masculinity or toxic virility. The guy who wants to reek of testosterone from every pore of his skin at all costs by making redneck jokes is no longer at the top. So, no bragging like “who pees the furthest”, no stupid jokes like “Toto at school”…

3/ Don’t flirt with your big engine

Seriously, in this era of climate change, environmental struggles, and Greta Thunberg, it’s better to hide your Bugatti Chiron W16 and praise cycling or walking. The days of guys hitting on girls behind the wheel of their 780-horsepower convertibles are over. This macho attitude is no longer relevant, and the man on a bicycle or scooter, who takes care of nature and cares about the environment, will certainly be popular with the ladies.

4/ Avoid the gallantry of another age

While it’s still appropriate to offer small gifts to your conquest or hold the door open for her when you enter a place, some acts of gallantry are downright hackneyed. For example, insisting on paying the bill at a restaurant or carrying a woman’s packages when she doesn’t ask you to. Gallantry goes both ways, and to avoid being corny, you have to accept that she can also help you put on your coat or offer you flowers… That’s evolution!

5/ Don’t burn yourself at first glance

Your look is very important to avoid being old-fashioned. So there are certain outfits to avoid. Get rid of the ripped clothes that make you look sloppy, the sports team t-shirts that make you look like a hooligan, the hoodies that make you look like a retarded thug, the multi-colored shirts that make you look like a street surfer, the rocker clothes, no need to tell you what look they make you look like… In short, dress in outfits that flatter you.

6/ Ban the statements that will ruin you forever…

By the way, lies are useless, sooner or later, you will be caught because the truth always ends up coming out. Do not start topics where you will be seen as an idiot, not everything you read in Voici is necessarily true. Do not believe that your desires will be the same as hers. It is not because you like exotic restaurants, horror films or conferences on conspiracy theories that she will be a fan too. If you do not want to win the title of champion of badgers, avoid ready-made phrases, known to be a total flop like: “I don’t smoke, I don’t drink, my only drug is you!” Finally, be yourself while respecting what she is.

7/ Don’t think that yes means bed!

Just because she came to the restaurant with you doesn’t mean she’ll jump into your bed that same night. So dirty innuendos and other bawdy remarks won’t cross your lips if you really want to have a good time with her without coming across as the big jerk she’ll run away from at the first opportunity. But, on the other hand, don’t be shocked if she suggests you go up to her place, she’s the one who decides and the guy who’s not nerdy will love this audacity on her part.

In short, to not be corny:

– be open-minded

– take care of your appearance and personal hygiene

– we forget the weed

– no expensive car

– no paternalism, protectionism, etc.

– no immature little boy attitude

– no sexual pressure or dirty talk

– no outdated gallantry

Just be a man of your time, who is interested in current issues, who is comfortable in his own skin, who loves women and can show them this love in a respectful way.

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