How do you seduce a girl when you’re shy?

Ah, shyness… It’s one of the most difficult afflictions to overcome. Even if we can say “I’m shy, but I’m taking care of myself…”, it’s often difficult to put this phrase into practice. How can you approach a woman you like if you’re scared?

The first step is to put a plan in place to overcome your shyness. To overcome shyness, you first need to gain self-confidence. For this, a little effort is required. First of all, it’s important to take care of your appearance. Ask a friend or someone you trust with good taste to help you find two or three casual wear outfits that will look good on you and give you a sloppy chic look. The next thing to think about is your hairstyle. Make an appointment with a hairdresser for a cut that will enhance your face.

In the mirror, what do you see now? A different man, isn’t he? You must now embody this new man. You’ve got the look, now it’s time to give it substance. Build your personality by emphasizing the important points: humor, culture, repartee, listening skills, etc.

Then comes the pretty girl, the one you like most of all. Why this particular girl? You can’t explain it, but that’s the way it is. The main problem comes from the fact that you’ve already idealized and divinized it. You put her on such a high throne that she’s inaccessible to you. Why? Either you don’t really want it to work, or you need to swallow a healthy dose of courage and face your goddess.

To achieve this without too much trouble, you need to find its apparent flaw. And amplify it. For example, she talks too much, she’s superficial, she has a boyish gait, she smokes and her teeth have a slight yellowish tinge – in short, anything that can be used to dilute her splendor. Once you’ve found it, you build your anti-stimulus shield on it. It’s not so difficult to reach, since it has this flaw that brings it down to your level. Despite this fact, there’s still a long way to go.

Now it’s time to take action. How? By creating the opportunity. Observe this woman and note her habits. We’re not telling you to spy on him, you’d scare him off and kill all hope. But make sure you bump into her regularly, often at the same time, in the same place. Then make an awkward gesture towards her, gently shove her to drop her bag and apologize. That’s when you need to make amends, and you’ll do anything to do it.

It’s best to create a context in which you have to apologize. A (very) minor car fender-bender, or you drop his drink in the pub, or you take his cart by mistake in the supermarket, or you blow a parking space right under his nose. In short, be a little inventive.

Clumsiness can be really touching for a woman. Especially if you take responsibility for it and know how to apologize. It could even become an effective flirting technique. Of course, being the good Lover that you are, you’ll always behave like a gentleman and your blunders will never endanger the life or health of the subject of your desire.