Finding a Way to Get Back on Your Feet After a Breakup

Finding a way to recover from a breakup can be a difficult and emotional task, but it’s important to not let the pain of a past relationship affect your future. The first step to getting back on track is accepting the end of the relationship and allowing time for a period of mourning to heal and move on. Next, it’s important to focus on yourself and take the time to get to know yourself, reconnect with your passions, and personal goals.

Getting back in shape and taking care of your mental health are also essential to feeling better and regaining self-confidence. Taking time to go out with friends and have fun is also important to distract yourself and find joy in life again. Finally, it is important not to rush into a new relationship before you are completely ready, but rather to take the time to meet new people and build a healthy and balanced relationship.

After a breakup, how to get back on your feet?

After getting over the pain of the breakup, you’re ready to move on and get back on track. However, before you do that, it can be beneficial to take stock of yourself, your habits, your relationships, and your life in general in order to reassure yourself and get back on track.

1. Be comfortable in your shoes

First of all, you need to feel good in your head, in your body, in your whole person, and for that, there is nothing better than signing up for a gym. An appointment with a coach would be ideal, he will help you progress, lose unnecessary fat or firm up your muscles. Sport triggers the production of endorphins, also called happiness hormones. There are 4 main happiness hormones: dopamine, endorphin, serotonin and oxytocin. When your body is to your liking, when you can move better, run, climb, descend, without being short of breath, you will surely have to redo your wardrobe.

2. Rethink your wardrobe

When choosing your clothes, opt for a comfortable and chic style that is just right to suit the taste of most women. If your choice turns out to be too typical, super classic 3-piece suit style, you will discourage women who like simplicity and thus reduce your hunting territory.

There are stores that can serve as a reference base like UNIQLO or ZARA. They combine cozy style with an affordable price. You can always go a little crazy with a designer garment but not a total look: a scarf, a belt, a shirt, in short, nothing “too much”.

3. Focus on your hairstyle

Go to the hairdresser, try a hairstylist, your haircut should be based on your face, not the mainstream haircut you saw in the latest GQ magazine. Not all haircuts flatter all face shapes. Trust the barber or hairdresser’s experience.

If you have a beard, it must be well-groomed and maintained. Nobody wants to flirt with a bum!!

4. Never neglect your smell

Another essential element is the perfume. Get rid of cheap perfumes (Axe and company) that smell like deodorant, and go to a perfumery. Depending on your skin type, a consultant will help you find an essence that will be yours, that will identify you. Of course, fragrances are worn in moderation, don’t spray yourself excessively, avoid smelling like a hen!

5. Make your mouth an object of desire

Good dental hygiene is absolutely essential! Fresh breath, clean and healthy teeth for a cute smile. You have to make the woman you’re flirting with want to taste your lips…

6. Set up your nest

If you still live in the place where you lived with your ex, you need to clear out your home. Move your furniture, repaint the rooms, remove all the souvenirs, photos, objects bought together. If you can afford it, the best thing to do is to move. Start from scratch, in a living space that belongs exclusively to you and where you will be the first to build the story. Did you want that loft in the neighborhood, next to work? Well now you are free to take it and make it your bachelor pad!! A black wall with photos of your favorite movies or a zen style, whatever your personal tastes, let go and make your interior your own. In anticipation of future meetings, buy beautiful dishes, champagne glasses, a few nice bottles of wine.

7. Create a cozy atmosphere

You don’t need to spend a fortune to create a comfortable and welcoming living room. A sofa, a few throw pillows and some nice music will be enough to create the atmosphere. Avoid playing metal on your first date or songs that will remind you of the past. Opt for lounge music with subdued lighting (please, no kitchen neon lights), indirect lighting is always better.

8. Close the door on the past

When you have become another man, clean up your surroundings. There are always harmful people in the family and among friends. Jealous people, envious people, dead weight, people who will always give you opinions, advice that can only make you stagnate or, worse, regress. Those nostalgic for your previous life, leave them aside! Snub evenings with acquaintances from your ex’s time, avoid places you went with her, do not stay in touch with her family, at least at the beginning.

9. Open yourself to the world

But none of this will be successful if you don’t make an effort to open up about life in general, cultural issues, current events, controversial topics of the day, etc. Find out about the things that interest her so that you have an opinion to give or ideas to exchange. Talk about your passions too, like during your last sommelier class, you tasted a sublime Burgundy. You are the sushi champion, rolling them has no more secrets for you. You have taken up mixology and are trying new surprising cocktails. You won’t be able to leave her indifferent with all these extras that you will reveal to her little by little. But not the big game right away, you have to let curiosity show its nose.

10. Work on your ability to amaze him

Last but not least: amaze your date. Women love to be amazed. Hone your sense of humor, don’t hesitate to show off your knowledge on subjects that interest her (without knowing more than her, of course), be creative in your outing suggestions (instead of a show in a traditional venue, why not a play in an experimental theater), plan surprises for her like a picnic in the middle of the day in the park next to her work or an evening in an unusual place with champagne galore, invite her to do things that you didn’t do with your ex. Surprise yourself!

If you implement these few recommendations, we can say that you are back on track and that the past no longer has any hold on you. New conquests and why not, a new love!