Ending up with your ex… or not

Breaking up with your ex is often a difficult step to overcome, but it’s important to know when it’s time to move on. However, some relationships aren’t easily forgotten and it can be tempting to fall back into the arms of your ex.

The Lover must be able to exercise discernment in these situations. He must ask himself the right questions: Was the relationship healthy? Why did the breakup happen? Have the problems been resolved?

If these questions have positive answers, it may be possible to try to reconnect with your ex. However, if the relationship was toxic, if the issues were not resolved, or if the breakup was painful, it may be time to turn the page and focus on the future.

Ultimately, the Lover must be honest with themselves and do what is best for their own mental and emotional health, even if it means leaving their ex-partner in the past.

It is important, gentlemen, to grieve your past relationship before committing to a new one. In order for your new relationship to have a chance of success, you must free yourself from anything that ties you to your ex. Do not keep his gifts, messages, photos or other mementos that risk making you fall back into the past.

Of course, it’s normal to have feelings for your ex, especially if the relationship lasted a long time. But you have to ask yourself the question: are these feelings preventing you from moving forward and fully living your new story? If so, it may be time to take a little distance and focus on your present.

When you are ready to commit to a new relationship, be honest with your new partner and talk to her about your past feelings. She will be able to help you through this difficult time and support you in your healing process.

In short, for your new relationship to be healthy and fulfilling, it is important to leave your ex behind and focus on your present and future with your new conquest.

Too often, the Ex acts as a shield or an escape hatch when the Lover embarks on a new romance. The problem is that the Ex knows this and plays on it maliciously. Why? Because it is always (but really always) ultra pleasant to know that we still have power over a person who shared our life. But you don’t want that, you don’t need this unhealthy relationship with your Ex, even if sometimes it seems reassuring to you. If you have to end your new adventure, you will do it like a professional tightrope walker, without your Ex as a net.

It is clear that every budding relationship involves risks and that you could end up ruined. But those who do not risk anything, are bored to death! If you broke up with your Ex, it is because you were ready to experience something else. So you do not think about your Ex, you do not talk about your Ex, you do not communicate with your Ex. Unless you have children (or pets), in which case it is preferable that you maintain a courteous relationship with your Ex for the well-being of those who depend on this good understanding between you.

It may also be that your Ex has become so important in your life over the years that you already know that it will be impossible for you to ignore her. And that you don’t want her to disappear from your world. It will be your choice. Finding a lover who will accommodate your Ex risks becoming the test of the century because frankly, no woman will be happy to know that she could be judged by the one who preceded him in your life… and your bed. Moreover, what lover would want the Ex to come and poke his nose into her life as a couple, or worse, to give her wise advice because she knows this man so well.

Some things are possible, some are not, and living with your ex is one of those things that is mission impossible. Take it for granted!

And now, let’s say you made the right choice and you turn your back on your Ex. Great! Except that she’s harassing you, she won’t let go, she clings to you like poverty to the poor, what do you do? Well, you just have to pray that your Ex isn’t the “Fatal Attraction” type and that she’ll understand that you won’t give her any more importance. But for that, you have to believe it yourself. But the “big” problem with these Exes who resist breaking up as hard as super glue is when the other party doubts the merits of breaking off all contact. So tell yourself one thing, boys, if the first question a girl asks you concerns your Exes, rest assured that she will NEVER put up with one of your ex-girlfriends hanging around. Forewarned is forearmed!