Do not confuse flirting and seduction…

Men often tend to confuse flirting with seduction, but it is important to understand that there are subtleties to knowing to retain a woman’s attention rather than simply “flirting” her. Flirting is often crude and women are very little sensitive to it.

Typically, a guy who flirts is looking for a one-night stand and will keep flirting until he reaches his goal. However, this approach doesn’t appeal to women. Approaching multiple women in the hope that one of them will agree to sleep with you is probably not the best way to meet someone.

There is no magic formula to learn how to seduce, but it is important to know that seduction is subtle and must be carried out with respect and finesse. Women are sensitive to men who are attentive, funny, respectful and who seek to establish an emotional connection with them.

If you want to seduce a woman, and not just flirt with her, you will have to try to understand her, while showing her that you are not indifferent to her charm. She must feel listened to and perceive your attention when she talks to you, not just your desire to sleep with her!

Only if you can make him feel all this will you have any chance of achieving your goals.

There are also certain signals that you need to know how to detect. With experience, a man learns to detect the signs that allow him to know if a woman is seduced or not. The look or the smile will be able to inform him about the reactions aroused in his beauty; indeed, if she smiles at you about a fairly banal subject, it is because she is having a good time in your company. The reasoning is the same for a strong look or a relaxed body posture, this is a sign of well-being and sometimes even desire.

All these positive and encouraging clues will allow you to continue your approach through a light and pleasant discussion, with the aim of getting to know her while having a good time. A woman needs to feel your interest in her when she talks to you, not just your desire to seduce her physically.

A very simple little discussion will be enough to say a lot about your intentions, so be careful what you say!

If, despite your good intentions, the woman you are interested in rejects you, learn to see in each failure the opportunity you had to practice seduction and avoid insisting: when a woman does not want to, you have to know how to accept it.

Also, a woman who is closed to what you tell her will see your insistence as something unpleasant and very heavy… The timing may be bad, you don’t know her, you don’t know her life or her story either, so don’t try to force her.

Finally, whatever your goal, seduce or just flirt, know that a woman will feel confident only if she feels loved, understood, heard, and this is also true over a relationship of several years, so gentlemen, love women by getting to know them and making them happy, never try to flirt like a fool, because otherwise you will never succeed.

The entire Lover-Coach team remains available if you need further advice.