Creating opportunity in love

It’s possible to fall in love by chance, through a chance encounter. But it’s also possible to create your own opportunities for love. This doesn’t mean forcing things or manipulating people, but rather being proactive and setting up situations conducive to lovemaking.

This can take the form of social activities, such as evenings out with friends or cultural events, where you can meet new people with similar interests. Joining clubs or associations, or taking part in sporting or artistic activities, can also be interesting. By being open-minded and curious, you can multiply the opportunities for enriching encounters.

It’s also important to work on oneself to be ready to seize these opportunities. This can be achieved through self-confidence, optimism, benevolence towards oneself and others, or the development of human qualities such as empathy and active listening. In the final analysis, creating opportunity in love is all about being open to the possibilities life has to offer, and being ready to seize the opportunities that come our way.

It’s common to feel attracted to a woman, but not know how to approach her. You may be intimidated by her beauty, intelligence or high social status. However, you shouldn’t think that some women are unapproachable. The key is to create the opportunity.

I remember a friend who was attracted to a very beautiful woman he met regularly in a bar, but he didn’t feel attractive enough for her. However, he found a solution. He noticed that the woman was leaving the bar alone and going to her car. So he decided to follow her discreetly and station himself on a street corner before she reached her car. Then he hitched a ride and, much to his surprise, the woman stopped for him. And so their relationship began.

Another friend told me that one evening, as he was about to leave a nightclub empty-handed, he took his umbrella and passed it behind a cylindrical column to play the dunce. He was surprised to hear a squeal and to see a lovely young woman inadvertently caught by the handle of his umbrella. That’s all it took for the two of them to end the evening together.

Creating the opportunity means studying the situation and thinking about the best way to open a door to communicate either with the woman you’re after, or with a pure stranger who a cleverly provoked conjuncture will put in your path. For example, a woman you’re particularly attracted to works in a business to which you have access. You become her best customer, going so far as to establish a form of intimacy with her. You’re a good listener, she ends up telling you little secrets and, one thing leading to another, you go out for a drink and all hopes are raised.

To get good ideas, you need to be on your toes. You need to analyze your subject and identify the ideal windows for action. Departures are often good moments. When a woman leaves work or the restaurant with her girlfriends, or emerges from a pub if she’s alone. When she’s tangled up with her bags on her way out of a store, or struggling to make her way on public transport. All these opportunities are worth considering.

Of course, the idea of the cool guy doing the shopping or the even cooler guy doing the laundry doesn’t fail. Women still melt when faced with an attitude that seems unnatural to them, and blame goodness for a behavior that should have been natural for so long, called sharing household chores. And you’ll look even better if you give them a feminist speech about how much you believe in equality between men and women.