You’ve often heard this phrase, “I’d like to meet a guy like you, kind, respectful…” but despite this, you’re still single. You wonder if this is due to your lack of demonstration of kindness or if the women you’re interested in are simply attracted to another type of man. This is an opportunity to ask yourself the fundamental question: Are women more attracted to bad boys or to kind and caring men like you?
Badboy VS Good Guy: What Kind of Man Are You?
The term badboy literally means bad boy and is often associated with men who are not afraid of anything. In the sphere of male-female relationships, the badboy is more often seen as an attractive, emotionally detached man who has a string of conquests.
Conversely, the “good guy” is a man often described as respectful, shy and helpful. His qualities earn him the respect of women, but very often they put him in the drawer of “best friends” or worse…”Brother of the heart”.
Whether you’re on one team or the other, you’re probably wondering what kind of men women prefer. You’re right to ask yourself that question!
All women have different tastes and preferences, but they agree on two ideas: the bad boy seduces them while the good guy conquers them.
Let’s take the time to discover together the why and how.
The Bad Boy: A Female Fantasy
It’s no secret that women love men who are attractive and who make them feel special. With his Apollonian looks, the bad boy seems to tick all the boxes:
- a perfect body
- self-confidence and a strong charisma
- a real ease with women
- a bit adventurous, even daredevil
- an independence that impresses
He has everything he needs… And yet, does the bad boy really appeal to ALL women? Well no!
Know this, gentlemen, what women really like are:
- men who look at them with real stars in their eyes
- men who admire them for who they are
- authentic men with whom they can be themselves
The bad boy attracts because he knows how to show us that we have captured his attention, he lights the flame of desire. Since he knows how to seduce, the bad boy makes us swoon with a glance and if he smiles at us, we melt on the spot. This is often what you envy the bad boy: his ability to be noticed and to make us react.
For you gentlemen, it is obviously pleasant to be recognized for your charm, to make a gathering of charming young ladies laugh… But remember that seduction is only the first step.
What you have to understand is that we see in this kind of man, the promise of an encounter, even of a wild romance and that is why the bad boy seduces women. It is a good start to capture our attention, but it is not everything!
Good guys: the kind of man women like!
If bad boys easily attract and seduce women, “good guys” have something much more important: we imagine living alongside them.
And yes, gentlemen! Seducing a woman is one thing, making her fall in love is another. Many women will not go for a man they find too seductive, too comfortable with the fairer sex.
Why? Because they will have a hard time trusting him. After seeing this seducer at work, women will think of only one thing: will he do the same thing when we are together?
Bad boys may have an easier time seducing, but they will have a much harder time winning a woman’s heart and settling down in a real relationship, because trust could be lacking between his sweetheart and him.
Trust in each other is essential for a lasting and healthy relationship. So if you are the kind of man who knows:
- give a compliment without being vulgar
- assert yourself without crushing the other
- render services
- be attentive to the needs and desires of your sweetheart
- show affection to ONE woman, without trying to flirt with her girlfriend too (because you never know, if she says yes, it’s cool)
You’re well on your way to becoming the good guy she’s looking for!
What kind of man do you want to be? The fantasy or the man she loves?
As you can see, there is nothing wrong with being a bad boy or a good guy. As is often the case, it is all a question of intention. If your goal is to seduce, let the bad boy in you speak, on the other hand, if you want to start a serious relationship, call on the good guy who sleeps inside you.
In the end, men and women are not that different. You too, gentlemen, are attracted to seductresses, but who do you really imagine yourself spending the rest of your life with and starting a home? The bad girl or the “good girl”?
The most important thing to realize is that if you need to be someone else for a woman, then you’re not her type and she’s not yours either.
Small adjustments and compromises aside (which is the case in every relationship), don’t try to be a different man than who you are. Women want a genuine man!