Avoid being the heavyweight on duty :)

Have you ever imagined, even for a second, being a woman in a given situation? Imagine yourself sipping a drink in a pub, a bar, a nightclub, or whatever, when an indiscreet, heavy-set individual appears at your side with a lecherous smile, confidently rubbing up against you. How would you react?

Would it inspire indignation, exasperation, indifference? Most likely, you’d choose to respond with a headshot, wouldn’t you?

To be a woman is to be (for too many men still) prey. The Lover refuses to see women as game. If you read the majority of seduction coachings done by men, they present female subjects as targets. Yes, nothing less. And you’re taught to “target” your goal. But what girl really wants to be a target for a slob who’s obsessed with her crotch?

So no heavy-handed approach. No saucy eye-games, no wandering hands or libidinous approaches. Avoid being the kind of flirt who wants sex at any price and reeks of it a mile away. That said, it’s not just sexual innuendo that can weigh down your attempts. Inappropriate humor, for example, can quickly become a pain for the chick who has to put up with it. The perpetual clown who tries to make puns out of anything and everything is resolutely annoying.

Another thing to avoid is the victim attitude. Women treat you badly, your ex left you for your boss, you’re unlucky in life, and so on. This kind of talk is literally crushing.

What else? Insist on really depressing subjects: the latest sordid murder, the massacres of civilians in war-torn countries, laws that displease union members, the technical details of an ultra-sophisticated gadget so complex that only you understand what you’re talking about.

Sexism, both in behavior and speech, is not advisable either. We advise you to be light, funny and subtle. If you don’t have the ability to distinguish between barrier-building and barrier-opening, you don’t deserve to seduce anyone. Stay at home, drink beer in front of a rugby match, belch and fart your fill and tell yourself that perpetual celibacy is your best option.