The Lover and his relationship to time

To begin with, don’t worry, we’re not going to give you a lecture on Heidegger. Instead, we’re going to talk about organization—how an effective Lover organizes their time, prioritizes their priorities, and stays available.

First of all, a Lover isn’t someone who’s disorganized. On the contrary, they have perfect control over their time. Using a planner may seem outdated, but it’s actually very practical. Not only will it make you appear busy, but it will also allow you to keep track of your availability and appointments.

Don’t write down your date with a different girl every night. This would make you look like a playboy. Instead, the diary should be used to jot down your work appointments, activities, weekends, etc. It’s there to help you stay organized and avoid canceling the same date multiple times because you forgot you were having dinner at your grandmother’s.

How to set up a date with a girl so you look like you’re the Master of Time?

• Rule number 1 : don’t make a date with him that same evening. The idea is not to come across as a no-lifer, even if that’s the case. Also, don’t be hesitant when giving him your options: “Uh, Monday, uh no, wait, Wednesday at 6 p.m. I think, oh no, yes, yes, Monday, uh no, wait…”

The idea is to be certain of your availability to appear interested in her and be a good manager of your life, but not to be available at all times either. Offer her two separate times with confidence and let her choose: “I’m available Thursday evening for dinner with you or Saturday lunchtime, which do you prefer?” And there you have it, it’s done.

You don’t cancel, you don’t postpone, you don’t change the time slot every hour. If you’ve organized yourself well, you won’t have to. Otherwise, it could really get on her nerves if it starts like this, and it won’t bode well for the future.

• Rule number 2 : Organize an activity. By organizing an original activity, you show that despite your busy schedule, you haven’t neglected the time you’re going to spend with her. You want it to be special, and you’ve taken the time to plan it as best you can and make her happy. So, you’re mastering your time at the highest level!

• Rule number 3: Be on time. Because no, arriving all sweaty and 25 minutes late is not classy. No, it doesn’t make you super desirable. No, you won’t look like a super busy guy, which will drive her crazy about you. It will just make you look like a disorganized, disrespectful guy, and your date will start off badly since she will already be annoyed and at the first mistake, you will be powerfully nexted. So we have class, we don’t run after time, it runs after us, gentlemen.

• Rule number 4: when you leave her after your date and if it was a success, tell her that you will contact her again soon to see each other again (to do that activity you talked about that you have in common, for example). Do not contact her again within the hour that follows, return to your life and appreciate having had a pleasant time without making it the center of your life. Finally, suggest a new date, if she has not already done so, by contacting her again the next day for example.

Overall, it’s about not falling into the easy game of being the inaccessible man or the emotionally dependent man. Your relationship with time will say a lot about you, and it’s not attractive to a woman (or anyone else, for that matter) to be faced with a completely overworked man with his head underwater.

The more calm and reliable you are in your meetings and your organization, the more you inspire confidence and people will want to be by your side, because it will be pleasant.