The art of seduction on the net?

Dating sites have become a veritable playground for singles. Thousands of women sign up for them in order to meet people. However, the average is 30% women for 70% men, which can give the impression that the chances of seducing are slim. But before getting discouraged, it is important to ask yourself why these women, even attractive and sexy, are on these dating sites.

The answer is simple: many women are single and they are not going to flirt in a bar or make the first move, because it goes against what is socially anchored in our education. Women often have a passive role in seduction and therefore prefer to register on dating sites to find interesting men and let them take care of approaching them.

This is not to say that these women don’t have expectations of the men they meet online. They often look for partners who are caring, respectful, and have an interesting personality. So it’s important to work on these aspects if you want to seduce on dating sites.

In addition, it is important to note that women are often overwhelmed with messages from men on dating sites, which can lead them to be very selective in their choice. It is therefore essential to take good care of your profile and to have an original and authentic approach to stand out from the crowd.

In short, even if dating sites can seem daunting for men, it is important to keep in mind that many women are registered there to find serious partners and that an original and authentic approach can make all the difference.

On dating sites, they have found a real way to do their love shopping in the safety of their own homes. If even the local top model is registered on a site, it’s because she can’t find the right shoe for her in the real world and is waiting to be seduced.

So you are in a position of strength.

All you have to do now is match the man she’s hoping for.

The method:

1- Your profile

Choose your nickname carefully. This is essential.

The nickname is the first thing women will read.

Avoid beginner mistakes like phone number, first name and last name.

You have to stand out.

Ban funny or sexy nicknames like “petit-cochondu45”, “surfeuravendre”, “fredounet”.

This is ridiculous.

Find a nickname that will give a good image of you.

Here are some examples of pseudonyms that highlight by referring to a film: “Gordon-Levitt”, to music: “Cobain”, to literature: “Proust”.

You can also choose an activity you like like “snowboarding” or a thing you love like “Stroganoff”.

This nickname should define you and intrigue you.

The photo stage.

The photo is not optional, it is an obligation.

You don’t try to get in touch with women without profile pictures. It’s the same the other way around.

Just like the nickname, this step is crucial.

Please, no shirtless photos, even if you have six-pack abs.

I repeat, no photos of your genitals or any other part. It is simply a turn-off for women.

No photos of you having fun with your friends, let alone with your girlfriends, your ex or your family.

Avoid poor quality photos.

A good photo should show you off, be interesting and look like you.

Don’t hesitate to take out the suit jacket and shirt.

A well-dressed photo of you will attract women’s attention and give a good impression of you. A well-dressed man is a reassuring man.

Add a photo of yourself doing an activity you enjoy: swimming, paddleboarding, cooking.

And finally the description

Yes, gentlemen, women read descriptions, if the nickname and photo caught their eye. So it’s time to score extra points.

Don’ts: list your qualities and faults, no greetings or hellos, no references to sex, don’t use abbreviations like “24 year old YM”, no references to your exes like “young divorcee” and, please, no spelling mistakes.

Take a moment and think about who you are. What do you want to bring out of yourself?

It’s up to you to try to be a little poet to make women’s hearts vibrate.

For example, instead of a simple I like skiing, you can write: “I love skiing, hurtling down snowy slopes, feeling the adrenaline of speed. In these moments, I feel free, but I don’t like the cold. After skiing, I rush to get warm under a duvet with a chocolate.”

No need to tell everything in the description, it should be an appetizer that will make you want to discuss.

Describe your search in a few words. Be sincere and romantic.

For example: The woman of my dreams will have to be curious, she will like to travel, share impromptu weekends together.

Proofread your ad several times before posting it.

2 – Fishing

Now you are armed with your irresistible profile. You need to start your selection.

A little tip to avoid missing out on great opportunities. Instead, do your research based on what you don’t want.

If you make a selection of the type between 1m72 and 1m78 between 55 and 65 kg, you will miss out on this pretty blonde of 1m71, 54 kg who would make you fall in love.

Also avoid profiles of women who have not filled out their ad. Most often it is a sure failure, it is because they are not really looking, in addition you do not have a hook to start a discussion.

The best targets are new subscribers who are much more receptive. Also look at those who log in regularly, this proves that they are active.

Before starting a discussion, take the time to read his profile in detail and analyze it.

For example, if she says she likes paddle boarding, you can infer that she is athletic, loves nature, and has an active social life.

The first message stage

I know, it’s the scariest part and it’s crucial.

At this stage you either get his attention or you go on the blacklist.

Avoid “Hi, how are you, let’s get to know each other”, “I’m so-and-so, I work…”, etc.

No small talk, no text language, no spelling mistakes.

Start with a lead. This lead should come from her profile. Why are you writing to her, specifically?

You need to look for a detail on his profile, physical appearance or description that charmed you.

Example: “It’s crazy, your eyes, they look like the eyes of a child in wonder. You must have a lot of friends with a look like that who seem so happy.”

Or

“Hey, you like skiing too. Cool, a female skier. What’s your favorite ski resort?”

or a combo:

“With dimples like that, you must love smiling at life and others, which goes well with your passion for traveling. What would be your next destination if you could leave tomorrow?”

For profiles without a description, you can try a funny approach like:

“Apart from your face, I don’t know anything about you. Your profile is deserted. Don’t tell me you don’t have a life and passions!”

And above all, don’t hesitate to ask questions. This shows her that you are interested in her and creates the basis for a dialogue.

Ask him questions about his tastes, passions and activities.

Be creative in your wording. Rather than, “What’s your favorite movie?” ask, “What’s the last movie that moved you?”

Avoid questions about the past, religion, politics. This is the beginning, you have to stay light and attentive.

Remember to greet her afterwards with “See you soon!” or “Looking forward to hearing from you…”.

If she hasn’t responded to you, you should start over with a joking catch-up message.

“Hello, since I didn’t get a response to my message, I was worried, but maybe a violent storm cut off all your means of communication. I really wanted to know if you liked chocolate.”

3 – Last step: meet her in real life

We will assume that with your beautiful profile, your seductive language, you have received responses.

There is one thing left to do, not so simple: ask for her phone number to arrange a real meeting.

A little patience and charm are necessary. On the other hand, there is no point in beating around the bush for weeks. You are a man interested in this woman, not a friend and even less a virtual being.

Give yourself 15 days to get his phone.

You will have to continue to establish a climate of trust while not forgetting that if she responded to you, it is because she is also interested.

Keep writing her long enough messages, with questions to show her that you are really interested in her.

Keep a light tone and play with details.

Example: “Cool, you have a cat. Male or female? What breed? Wait, I’ll guess. If you were a cat, I think you’d be an American Curl with your wide eyes and independent, yet playful nature. Let me know if I’m right. See you soon.”

Mistakes to avoid:

Responding too quickly to his messages, writing to him on Friday and Saturday evenings, giving him too many compliments, talking about your exes, telling him your entire private life or using cynicism to communicate.

How do I ask for his number?

Simply put:

“I suggest we go for a drink on Thursday night. For once I’m meeting an interesting woman, I’d like to continue our conversations in person. Do you have a number where I can reach you?”

Or

“We could try a tapas bar as I know you like world cuisine. I would love to continue our discussions face to face. What is your phone number so we can set a date?”

Let’s assume you have his phone number.

It is important to have self-confidence and be optimistic.

I know it’s a lot of stress, all these steps.

All you have to do is call him. Often not easy to do for the shy.

I assure you, this call is intended to meet her, so to be direct.

I advise you to keep the call short, no need to talk for hours, to add layers of seduction. No text messages.

Example: “Hello Karine, it’s Marc. I hope you’re having a good day. I’m calling you between two appointments, I wanted to suggest we go for a drink in the new tapas bar on Thursday evening to get to know each other better.”

Logically, either she says YES, or she changes the date because she is already busy or you propose another date. Not the day after, because remember, you are a charming man with a busy life.

All you have to do is greet her.

Example: “Thanks Karine, see you on Thursday. I can’t wait to see those dimples in real life. I have to leave you, I have to go. I wish you a good end of the day and see you on Thursday.”

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