We have some tips to share for making the transition from virtual to reality when dating online.
Tinder is currently the most used dating app in the world with a very large database, which gives you a wide choice of profiles to browse. However, it is not as easy to flirt on Tinder as it might seem. The competition is strong and women are in high demand.
Before you jump on Tinder
It’s not enough to like all the female profiles within a 50km radius and wait for a match to send a copy-paste message to all the women to suggest they have a drink that evening.
Beautiful women are flooded with messages on Tinder. And to stand out from the crowd and hope that they respond to your first message, you will have to be original. Flirting on Tinder is not something you can improvise, you need to know seduction techniques.
Refine your profile
The first tip for flirting on Tinder is to take care of your profile.
This is the key element of flirting on Tinder that will affect your like and match rate.
The most important point is your profile picture.
This is the first image that women will have of you, they should not immediately brush you aside.
The goal is to get them to stop at your profile picture and want to look at the other pictures and read your description.
Let’s not lie to ourselves, girls will also judge you on your physique before reading your description.
If you choose an unflattering photo, or one in which you are difficult to distinguish, you have little chance of meeting people.
For your profile picture, choose a portrait instead.
The photo should be well framed, not blurry, with good lighting. Use your phone’s filters to crop the photo, put a nice filter.
Smile, make yourself beautiful.
Take care of the background decor, avoid photos in your bathroom with the toilet in the background.
Avoid dick pics or anything like that. You will be immediately labeled a fat pig and reported.
Then, complete your photo album with a full-length photo of yourself and share photos of you practicing your hobbies: guitar, surfing, motorcycling, traveling or any other activities you like.
And even if your written description will be less decisive, try to complete it in an original way and avoid spelling mistakes.
Don’t get excited when you get a return match
You’re starting out with a big advantage on this dating app. If you’re able to chat with a single person on Tinder, it’s because she liked you! So there’s something she liked about your profile picture or description.
This does not mean that everything is over.
But you have an opening to exploit.
Before taking any action, take the time to study his profile.
Look carefully at her profile picture, define what you find charming about her, examine her album photos to see her tastes, how she presents herself. And read her description to try to understand what she expects.
Personalize your messages
There is no magic formula for seducing on dating sites.
The key to success is to adapt to the person.
You may have a pick-up line that will work better but whatever you do, don’t just copy and paste.
Always find a detail, a hook in the profile of the single woman you want to seduce so that she feels that you want to seduce HER , and not just pick up any decent girl to end the evening.
Take care with your opening sentence
The first rule of flirting on Tinder is that it’s up to you to make the first move. Don’t wait too long to do so, since you’re certainly not the only guy she’s liked. Take advantage of the fact that the memory of your photo is still fresh in her mind.
Whatever you do, NEVER write to him:
“Hello, how are you?”
“CC, what are you doing on Tinder?”
“Hello miss”
Can you imagine for 30 seconds that this hook would work in real life?
Women get dozens of messages like this on Tinder. So if you want her to respond, you’re going to have to be a little more original and make the effort to find a detail in her profile that you can relate to.
Also avoid complimenting her directly on her physique, at the risk of coming across as a real jerk.
If she’s posing with her dog, ask her name or breed. Same for a travel photo, try to guess where she took it. It works every time.
Be direct and dare to seduce
You’re clearly not on Tinder to make friends. You know it and she knows it too.
So don’t be afraid to be downright seductive.
Have fun. Flirt openly. Be flirty. She needs to feel wanted. That’s why you’re both on this app.
Don’t harass her with messages
The other crucial point of Tinder flirting is the dosage. The hardest part for guys on a dating app is often finding the right balance between showing interest by quickly returning messages, and the desperate single who can quickly become annoying and invasive.
The key is to keep your cool.
You have no idea what she’s doing while she’s swiping on Tinder. She could be having a night out with her girlfriends and taking advantage of some downtime to scout out hot guys on her app. She could be at work or commuting. So if she doesn’t respond after 30 minutes, or even an hour or two, don’t panic.
And even if she didn’t get hooked and moved on to another target, it won’t help to pester her with messages desperately asking:
“Why don’t you answer me anymore?”
“Hey, are you still there?”
The only thing you’ll get is her blocking you.
If you have matched with a young lady but she does not respond to your message, do not be too insistent. Try to follow up with her 2 to 3 times, if she still does not respond to you, delete the match.
Take an interest in the right profiles
On Tinder, you will base your likes on the profiles of the women who interest you. But apart from a profile picture and a short description, you don’t have much to form an opinion about the person. However, a profile picture can say a lot. If your goal on Tinder is to go from virtual to real after a few messages, don’t bother sending likes to teases. To flush them out, look at the profile picture, if it shows too much, if it zooms in on her breasts, you can think that she will just want to show off on this application.
Don’t stagnate, progress!
When it comes to Tinder flirting, there’s only one direction to go: get a date. Everything else is just a courtship parade that should lead to your physical meeting. If you signed up for an app to pass the time chatting with girls, you’re missing the point! Your goal is to put her at ease and get as much information as possible so you can have a good time when you meet up for a drink.
So don’t spend hours talking about your past relationships or debating the latest Netflix series. It’s a good way to start a conversation. But if you wait too long to ask her out, she might move on too.
Accept that she won’t answer you anymore!
With a little more experience on Tinder, you will see that despite all your efforts, it happens that some girls no longer respond. That’s the game, as they say. You don’t necessarily control what she feels. It also happens that some girls register on Tinder just to have fun, with no intention of meeting a guy in real life.
So rather than dwelling on your failures, take them philosophically.
Successfully making the transition from virtual to reality
She’s really into it. You’re laughing together and the conversation seems to flow. You’re on the right track! Now all you have to do is manage the transition from virtual to real, which can be the most complicated phase of Tinder flirting.
So don’t wait too long before sending him:
“How about a drink on the terrace? It’ll always be more fun than typing on our keyboard, right?”
Another good strategy is to suggest that you exchange numbers to continue on Whatsapp for example. This is a good way to disconnect from the application and prevent her from being sucked in by another guy. Instagram is another good alternative since you will have access to her photos and will be able to determine whether or not you want to meet her.
Once you’ve completed this first step, set up a meeting. Suggest that evening or during the week so as not to let too much time pass between your discussions and your meeting. And come up with an original idea, like the new bar that just opened, an outdoor concert, etc.
Check if she’s still up for your date 2 hours before.
And there you have it! Now all you have to do is hope that the magic works between you
two !