Hello, today I’m going to tackle a delicate subject: domination. Although your partner may run her life like a Wall Street businesswoman, that doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll behave the same way during your lovemaking. Sex is a bubble of intimacy outside of time, where the masks of everyday life fall and we reveal ourselves, even uncover ourselves.
Why do some women love to be dominated? How to act like a good dominant (seductive and sexy)? What are the things to avoid to not go from dominant to big disrespectful jerk (because yes, the line is fine)? It’s time for me to tell you more about sexual intercourse and domination.
Drop your panties, I’m in the driver’s seat
Why do women like domination?
Because it’s simply delicious to lose control of time for a moment and let expert hands take care of your body with care and firmness. After days of organizing, planning, catching up on so-and-so’s blunders, planning plan A, B, C in case of unforeseen events… A woman may want to get rid of the responsibilities accumulated in her day.
Because it’s nice and exciting to be at the mercy of a man who knows what he wants and who knows our every desire well enough to tug at our heartstrings and tantalize our senses without having to say anything.
Finally, because all women have their little pleasures. Some like relationships where they can dominate their man, while others prefer to submit and let themselves be intoxicated by the pleasure of being firmly guided towards pleasure.
Do not confuse domination with disrespect!
Please note that sexual domination relationships are in no way a time to let off steam where the dominant can externalize his anger and accumulated frustrations on his partner. Relationships between dominant and dominated must always be consensual and respectful of the integrity of the partners.
Be careful what you see on porn sites and what your friends and colleagues say. What others do is not always good to reproduce. Especially since each person is different! Your partner might not like being called a bitch during sex and, for your part, you might not take any pleasure in insulting your dear and tender.
Remember one thing! What happens between two people during sex (although this is also true for all other forms of relationships) must always be based on kindness and respect. In short, being dominant in bed does NOT give you permission to act without taking the other person into consideration.
Which dominant are you?
There are several forms of domination. Depending on your desires and those of your partner, you can explore physical and psychological domination.
Physical domination
With ropes, whips or any object that can reduce (or even prevent) your partner’s movements.
Some examples
- Press your body against the mattress.
- Take his hand and put it on your cock.
- Hold her hands above her head or behind her back so she can’t move. Pull her hair, grabbing a clump of hair by the roots so as not to tear her head off.
- Spank him.
- Push her against the wall.
- Wrap your hand(s) around her neck (be careful not to strangle her too much, every woman has her limits).
Psychological domination
By words, directives or role play. It is about imposing your will on the dominated partner. To help you in this sense, here are some sentences that you can say to your partner to dominate the relationship and increase his desire.
Some examples
- Kiss me on the neck!
- Look me in the eyes!
- Take my dick in your mouth!
- Lean forward!
- Get on all fours!
- You look all excited, is it me who has that effect on you?
- Tell me what you want!
It is obviously possible to vary the pleasures, to tie up your partner and to get into the skin of a character. In short, sexual domination is explored and discovered by two people, according to the tastes, desires, fears and limits of each person.
The 3 Pillars of Domination, Without Complications
Pillar #1: Take into account your partner’s 5 senses
Be aware that women are sensitive to their environment, as well as to their sensations. During sexual intercourse, a woman can be excited or repulsed by:
– the words you use;
– the odors of the room or your body;
– the place where you are;
– your non-verbal attitude.
In short, during sexual intercourse, a woman’s five senses are on alert. As an emotional being, all the stimulations you can provide to a woman will be additional points to build her confidence and connect her to her pleasure.
Pillar #2: Communicate during the act to dominate, guide and build confidence
In the continuity of the five senses, communication is an essential point of domination. Already, to make sure that everything is going well for her as for you, then because women are very sensitive to what we say to them.
The mistake would be to think that your partner has no say during intercourse, since she is submissive. On the contrary, you can absolutely ask her to express herself, by asking questions that lead her to confess her desires and what you make her feel at that moment.
For your part, also think about talking, about sharing what you are experiencing at the moment. To let yourself be dominated, a woman needs to feel confident. To be comfortable enough to take off her armor. If she does not feel, or does not hear that you are having fun with her, she risks closing herself off.
These things to say to a woman during sex (obviously, provided it’s true):
- what you do is super exciting;
- like that… yes I love it;
- turn around, I want to admire you from another angle;
- you are so sexy ;
- look how hard you make me.
You get the idea? Be in the moment and tell him those words that are drumming in your head, but you don’t dare to say.
Pillar #3: Be tender and affectionate
Tenderness is extremely important in dominant relationships. Before, during, after. Remember that during sex, you show a part of yourself to the other and vice versa. This requires being willing to be vulnerable. Which can be difficult.
Take the time to reassure your partner. Show her that you respect her and that the fact that she likes to get slapped on the butt or pounded roughly does not make her a dirty woman!
This may seem obvious to you, but it’s better to say it. The more respect you show a woman, the more confident she will feel and the more she will dare to give herself to you.