It is commonly accepted that the so-called “missionary” position is the most basic of heterosexual sexual positions, and that it dates back to the dawn of time. But why is it called this?
By the way, why this name?
There are several differing explanations for the origin of the word, but the most widely accepted is that this position was advocated by Christian missionaries to new converts.
It has had several names throughout the ages: Anglo-American position, daddy-mommy position or even marital position. It is, moreover, our ancestors the Bonobos monkeys who practiced sexual intercourse in this way (still today).
This position is also one of the most popular in the world, coming in third place after Doggy Style (a sexual position where the woman presents herself from behind, on all fours, while the man penetrates her from behind) and Andromache (the woman sits astride the man ‘s penis, lying on her back).
A little juicy anecdote with our American friends. Know that in the State of Florida, the missionary position is the only legal one. Be careful if you feel like doing the Doggy Style fantasy or something else, you risk ending up in a cell! Who knows, it can spice up your relationship though!
The missionary’s assets
In a more practical approach, two truths complement each other:
– this position promotes fertilization
– it stimulates the clitoris and the famous G-spot of women
Sexologists claim that the missionary position is widely appreciated by men because it is simple enough not to fail, especially the first time. In addition, this position does not require superhuman effort when you are tired, you decide the rhythm that suits you, you highlight your muscles (if you have any!), and you keep the impression that the lady is comfortable and satisfied by your movements.
And most importantly, you don’t spill cum all over yourself!
The variants
Now, a quick overview of the variations. This list is not, and will never be, definitive, as man has a limitless imagination when it comes to sex, and everyone can appropriate the variation depending on where they are and the context that provokes the desire.
Nirvana : The woman should hold the back of a chair, with her arms behind her, so that she can perform a rocking motion. This way you can control the depth and rhythm.
The truce : at the moment of penetration, the two partners must form a 90 ° angle. They can admire each other, inch by inch. It’s a great position for hot days.
The Lotus Position : In this position, the woman, once lying down, raises and bends both legs. The man kneels in front of her and penetrates her. Penetration is deeper and more stimulating. Both partners can observe each other in full enjoyment.
The jewelry box : face to face, the lovers lie on their sides. The man extends his left leg and the woman her right leg. She then folds her left leg around her partner’s waist. If the penetration is shallow, the friction of the bodies (and the stimulation of the clitoris) quickly lead the couple to orgasm.
Goddess position : the man sits (back to the wall for balance) and stretches his legs, keeping them together. The woman comes to sit astride him, crouching, and wraps her arms around his neck. It’s the woman who leads the dance… quite a bit from time to time!
We could go on and on, inventing variations, but what emerges from this exercise is that the imagination, the moment, the partner, the way you approach your sexuality is different for everyone. Missionary or not, the most important thing is to have a good time and to do each other good. By varying the positions, you avoid routine and improve your shared sexual experience. This allows you to keep an open mind and who says open mind, says a world of new pleasures to discover…