How to achieve successful foreplay? Ah, here is an essential question for any self-respecting lover! Foreplay is the essential preparation phase for any successful sexual relationship. It allows you to get in the mood, to connect emotionally and physically with your partner, to discover your body, your desires, your expectations, your limits.
But there’s more to foreplay than caresses, kisses and massages. It’s a subtle, complex art that calls for creativity, sensitivity, patience and listening. They must be adapted to each partner, each situation, each moment. It’s not enough to follow a list of pre-established techniques to make foreplay a success. Above all, you need to listen to the other person and to yourself, to know how to improvise, to play, to vary the pleasures, to adapt to the other person’s reactions.
In short, foreplay is a skilful blend of tenderness, sensuality, humor, imagination and spontaneity. It’s an invitation to explore, to discover, to share and to trust. They are a crucial step in building desire and reaching ecstasy. So don’t neglect them, take the time to savor and sublimate them. Your pleasure and that of your partner depend on it.
It’s important to take the time to explore your partner’s body and gradually build up her temperature. Foreplay doesn’t just mean stroking the genitals, but includes a whole range of sensual actions such as passionate kisses, gentle caresses all over the body, relaxing massages, tongue play, soft words whispered in the ear…
It’s also essential to know how to listen to your partner’s reactions so you can adapt your approach. Certain gestures may make her shiver with pleasure, while others may make her uncomfortable or bored. The art of foreplay therefore lies in finding the right balance between gentleness and firmness, between discovering the other person and respecting her limits.
In short, don’t jump straight to the main course, take the time to savor the appetizers and starters. Well-executed preliminaries can make all the difference and make your night unforgettable.
- Rule number 1
Endless kisses. Kiss her all over, on the mouth, on the neck – in short, make her quiver with your gentle mouth. Kissing is very erotic, and you can even wander gently over her earlobe or into the hollow of her knee. These are two very erogenous zones, not only for women but also for men, as the skin there is very thin. The idea is to approach all the areas of her body, building up tension WITHOUT going over her breasts or sex. You can go around them, approach them, touch them lightly, but don’t actually touch them. This will make her want to come very quickly.
- Rule number 2
Massage her gently. You can start applying pressure with your hands, alternating with light caresses in different places, such as her neck, back and hips. Maybe even slide over her buttocks and grasp them with your hands, gently stroking upwards. Your kisses combined with your caresses should raise your partner’s temperature instantly.
- Rule number 3
Take her clothes off a little at a time. Start wherever you like, but you can gently remove her T-shirt while continuing to kiss or caress her, then grab her by the hips, unbutton her jeans or slide the zip on her skirt. The idea is not to take her off right away, but to let her know that it’s about to happen.
- Rule number 4
You can start touching her breasts over her bra, mixing caresses on her breasts with caresses on the rest of her body. Finally, you can remove her bra and concentrate on her breasts gently. Stroke all over her body with your mouth and hands, except her sex for the moment. Relax, guys, it’ll come to you.
- Rule number 5
Now it’s time to get down to business. Take off her stocking, pants or skirt, and start brushing over her panties, around her sex, until you’re brushing the forbidden area, again, over her panties. And without further ado, you can slide your hands inside and start masturbating her.
- Rule number 6
Make her jump her panties and continue your caresses, your fiery kisses, and move gently towards her sex with your mouth. You can make her languish a little and stay around without sliding your tongue in yet.
- Rule number 7
A cunnilingus from God! Give yourselves over to making your partner come willingly before moving on!
All this is a plan to be watered down, of course. It’s not a technique, but a method to help you understand the variety of practices you can adopt to turn up the heat without burning through a lot of steps that can be super-pleasurable, both for her and for you.