A few words about libertarianism

It’s interesting to discuss libertarianism, a lifestyle or philosophy of living that advocates freedom of choice in matters of sexuality and romantic relationships. Libertines believe that everyone should be free to explore their sexual desires without judgment or social or moral constraints.

Libertarianism can take many forms, such as swinging, triolism, melangism, BDSM and many others. It can be practiced alone or as a couple, in swingers’ clubs or private parties.

However, it’s important to note that libertarianism is not for everyone and must be practiced responsibly and consensually. Libertines should be aware of the potential risks associated with the practice, such as sexually transmitted infections and potential emotional consequences.

It’s also essential to communicate clearly with your partner(s) to ensure that everyone is comfortable with the proposed practices. Trust, respect and communication are key values in the practice of libertarianism.

Libertarianism is growing in popularity and acceptance. Although libertarianism has always existed, the conditions under which it is practiced have evolved over time.

Today, libertarianism generally implies an agreement between two people within a couple. Back in the day, the libertine was more of a bachelor who liked to enjoy carnal pleasures without having to answer to a partner.

Today’s libertines are couples who allow themselves to have sexual relations outside or within their union, but with their partner’s agreement. The aim is to freely explore their sexuality with others, while allowing their partner to do the same. It’s a consensual practice that allows couples to open up to new sexual experiences while remaining together.

The benefits of libertarianism:

For some, sex is as much a part of life as any other enriching experience. Experimentation, discovery and performance are conjugated in the plural, since it’s all about enrichment and diversification. This in no way detracts from the commitment we can have with a person, nor from the strength of the love that unites us with the being chosen to share our daily lives. Sex really is distinct from love, and incorporating other partners into the daily sexual routine in no way jeopardizes the relationship with the other person.

What’s more, some people even find that diversifying experiences brings them closer to their life partner. Sexually, it gives you new ideas to try out with your loved one, but also allows you to rediscover the other person’s body, which you may know very well after a few years. Also, for people who need diversity to be fulfilled, a libertarian agreement avoids the betrayals or deceptions that can destroy a couple. Once the agreement has been made, there are no lies or secrets. So trust is not betrayed.

The disadvantages of libertarianism:

For people who are new to libertarianism, it’s obvious that they need to be sure of one thing: that it doesn’t give rise to jealousy. Agreeing is one thing, and intellectually, we accept it. But it can also lead to surprises in terms of jealousy, knowing that the other person’s body is being given over to a third party, or even putting ourselves at risk. One of history’s best-known libertine couples is Jean-Paul Sartre and Simone De Beauvoir. Intellectually, De Beauvoir knew that JP. Sartre’s contingent love affairs did not jeopardize his necessary love for her. But in reality, jealousy overtook her, and she chose not to have sexual relations with him in order to protect herself from the inevitable competition that arose between her and “the others”.

So you need to be sure you’re not prone to jealousy, which can arrive without warning. How? By giving each other limits, by setting up rules specific to each couple’s needs. For some, it will be simply having sex, for others it will be the nature of regularity with the same person. There can be as many rules as there are couples.
The key is communication.

If you want to experiment with libertarianism, talk it over with your partner. Explain to her what’s at stake, the ins and outs of your desire to experiment, while including her in this practice so that she understands that it’s not a question of excluding her from a part of your (sexual) life, but rather of putting her at the heart of it all by communicating with her about it.