According to a recent survey, some seduction habits considered old-fashioned, even macho, are still present in the minds of women.
A polling institute, LFOP, recently published the results of a survey revealing that 90% of women want the man to make the first move during a first meeting.
This survey was conducted among more than 1,000 adult women living in metropolitan France.
This percentage has increased since a similar study conducted in 1994, so preconceived ideas and old habits do seem to be diminishing over time.
It is interesting to see that the reactions are not the same depending on the age group questioned.
It is women in their thirties who seem more ready to make the decision to approach a man, this being linked to their self-confidence but also to the era in which they are evolving.
Younger women remain more shy and older women still have the image of the gallant man and older traditions.
Very “old school” traditions, such as the rather persistent one of a man having to hold the door for a woman when he enters a room with her. This still wins two-thirds of the votes.
The restaurant bench, which is a priori more comfortable, must be systematically offered to the woman by the man for more than half of the women.
Another preconceived idea that remains well-established is that of the bill. Indeed, for half of the women surveyed, it is up to the man to invite the woman to the restaurant, while for the other half, it is normal for the woman to pay at least her share on the first date.
Here again, the age of the women interviewed is often decisive for their response. Younger women want to be more independent and older women more conservative of the traditions of our grandparents!
For example, nearly 20% of women find that making the first move on a woman is inappropriate, and more than 15% think that if the woman makes this first move, it is because she is not looking for a serious relationship (which is quite absurd).
Despite these figures, which suggest a rather backward state of mind for many women, almost two thirds of those surveyed admit to having already made the first move with a man.
Nearly a third say they have decided to start a conversation with the aim of flirting with a man at a private party or a party with friends. And nearly 90% of the women surveyed admit to having already flirted with someone, regardless of the location.
Gentlemen, be attentive and always ready to start a discussion, you are not safe from coming across one of them!
The reasons given by women who have never succeeded in flirting are as follows: almost half do not have enough self-confidence or are too shy.
Then, more than 40% are afraid of being greeted with rejection and finally more than a third fear being seen as “easy” women looking for a one-night stand.
We are therefore in a transitional period where some women are still in a state of mind with outdated codes and for whom men must show gallantry throughout the first date, from the restaurant bench to the bill; and where others consider that women are equal to men and that they have the same rights and duties, the right to flirt, and the duty to pay for their dinner!
Gentlemen, the Lover-Coach team recommends that you pay attention to your crush’s behavior during your first date to find out what type of woman she is (old school or avant-garde) and then adapt your behavior accordingly.
If a woman comes to flirt with you, she is not necessarily an easy girl but rather a modern and courageous woman, who has caught your eye, and who is just looking to get to know you better.
So respect it!
The Lover-Coach team hopes to have given you information that will be useful to you and wishes you a nice day.