Women are increasingly seeking their independence, their strength, their ability to compete with men, and this can sometimes affect their deepest desires and aspirations. Gentlemen, it is important to understand that behind their pride, their armor and their big speeches, women are very clear about what they want. In fact, nothing makes a woman happier than being with a man who knows and respects her enough to understand her needs and respond to them accordingly.

In the minds of women

Before starting this article, I want to warn you that this is about pushing female reasoning as far as possible. In fact, you will understand what can happen in situations that are trivial for you, but decisive for her.

This article is not meant to force you to act like a knight or a gentleman. Rather, see this writing as a guide, an ally that will help you understand what a woman expects and why some of her reactions seem disproportionate to you.

1 – Give him your coat when it’s cold

After a nice evening at the movies or at a restaurant, you notice that the weather is cool and obviously Madame is not covered enough. Whether she decided to put on a light jacket to make herself beautiful or she simply forgot to take a warmer coat, offer her your coat. If she refuses, offer it a second time and if she ever repeats her refusal, put your coat back on. Why this gymnastics? Because a woman may have gotten into the habit of acting as if everything is fine.

By starting to take off your coat to give it to her, you are making her understand that you see through her and that there is no problem with her being cold. By offering it to her twice, you are giving her the opportunity to dare to express her need. Yes, but why not three then?! Because a NO is still a no. The first is often that of politeness, but the second confirms the refusal.

To know! There is a big difference between proposing and offering! Giving your scarf, jacket or coat and putting it on a woman’s shoulders does not have the same effect as asking her if she is cold.

Think about it! If you are also worried about being cold, consider putting a warm sweater under your coat. If the temperatures are warm, you will be able to easily hold your jacket in your hand. Conversely, if you are in the situation where you decide to offer your coat to Madame, you will not be cold.

2 – Stand up for her. Yes, even if she’s wrong.

It’s not just about being right. Understand that if a woman you care about finds herself in a difficult situation, she will appreciate your support. You can then decide to change the subject of the conversation or more directly (if you think she is right) to argue in turn in this direction. Once in private, you will have plenty of time to tell her what you really thought. The idea is to show her your support in public and to make her understand that in front of others, you are her main ally.

To know! A woman needs to feel that her partner supports her and that he will not leave her alone. Whether it is a social evening, a family dinner or a vacation with your friends. You will win points by positioning yourself as an ally and not as an enemy or worse a coward who does not dare to take sides.

Think about it! Some people have a very hard time with situations where they don’t feel supported. Whether they experience it as rejection, abandonment or betrayal… it’s better not to be the man who causes this feeling.

3 – Surprise her at work (or somewhere important to her)

Women love surprises and little attentions. So, let’s be clear: I’m not asking you to rent a football club to propose on Thursday a week from now. No! On the other hand, dropping off a little something at her work or picking her up on a day when you know she has a busy day… That’s the kind of attention that will earn you points or, better yet, rekindle the flame of a relationship on the wane.

To know! Even if they don’t admit it, women like the world to witness their happiness. Without playing the “prom couple” role. Just enough for her colleagues or friends to see how well her story is going.

Think about it! Being able to show affection in public can make a difference. Even more so if it is a spontaneous action that expects nothing in return.

4 – Act like a man

And last but not least, especially given the current context: women love it when you act like a man! Let’s be honest, yes this may seem paradoxical to you. Considering everything that is being said at the moment, one might think that women want to become men, that they want to replace you in society and in your relationship. FALSE! This is only the case for a very small minority. Each has their own reasons and principles.

Let’s get back to the point! A woman who takes care of herself, who lives life in the fast lane to manage her career, her friendships and her family, this woman will want to have a reliable man by her side. Your height, your musculature, your bank account do not count if behind all that you are not able to manage a conflict situation, to make decisions, to support her…

To know! Every woman has her own definition of the ideal man. Physically as well as intellectually, tastes and colors do not dispute. On the other hand, women agree on the great values that make you a man with whom she imagines building her life and not a guy passing through, or even a poor guy.

Think about it! The key points are as follows:

• listening and consideration;
• taking initiative;
• your ability to make decisions;
• attention and commitment;
• taking into account his wishes;
• communication.

You could have the biggest car, the biggest bank account, and Brad Pitt’s number, but if you can’t provide these six things to a woman in your relationship, you won’t be her priority for long.